4 Brutally Honest Reasons Some Women May NEVER Be Able To Squirt

At least, unless they read this and figure it all out ...
By Kitty Nelson
Squirting has become a sexual phenomenon. With books, workshops and instruction manuals on how women everywhere can achieve the art of female ejaculation and reach new heights of pleasure, it has become not only a hot topic but an experience that an increasing number of women (and their partners!) wish to experience.
There's tons of info out there about how to accomplish female ejaculation and how to locate, stimulate and activate the G-spot. As a result, a lot of women are on a bit of a quest.
Destination: A squirting orgasm.
Now, I'm not going to say that's a waste of time. Sexual exploration is a beautiful thing. But there's something you should know. Something that most sex sites won't tell you ...
Despite your best efforts, you may never squirt — and here are 4 reasons why:
1. Porn stars have unique talents.
Porn makes squirting seem like a magic trick. In porn we see beautiful, fit women being brought to intense thresholds of pleasure before ejaculating love juice across the room or onto an excited and eager partner (who is also, of course, a sex god with everything it takes to bring a woman to this level of ecstasy.)
It can be fun to watch, but the truth is that porn sets extremely unrealistic standards when it comes to just about every aspect of sex — how we should look, how our genitals should look, how we should sound — it only makes sense that female ejaculation would be part of the mix.


The truth is that the percentage of women who can actually squirt is quite small.
Porn makes it seem as though every woman can squirt high volumes and on command. The thing is, porn stars often have some unique sexual skills, not to mention false liquids, internal vaginal pumps filled with water and other tricks that have been known to be used in porn films.
Just because you saw it in "Squirters Gone Wild" does not make it real. Porn is designed to feed our fantasies, not imitate real life. It also isn't any kind of a model for sexual play. Not being able to squirt doesn't mean you aren't hot; it just means you're human.
In real life, our sexual abilities are very different. When you think about it, that's actually a beautiful thing.

2. The act is a bit ... ambiguous.
The words squirting, gushing, and female ejaculation are all used so interchangeably that no one really has a specific definition on what each term actually means.
Technically, female ejaculation is the release of clear or whitish fluid from the Skene's gland on the anterior wall of the vagina, which is homologous to the male prostate. Some women experience that. Others might be experiencing a release of urine. That happens because the clitoris is quite close to the urethra.
Either way, don't stress about it. If it feels good who cares what the hell you’re doing.


3. Anatomy's a bitch.
Where the G-spot is located is different for every woman; so is its location, size, and sensitivity. Researchers say that in general, the G-spot is located on the front of the vaginal wall at the opening.
That said, vaginal length, pelvis length and the size of the G-spot within a specific woman all vary. In one vagina the G-spot may be higher up, lower, larger, more receptive to stimulation, easily irritated, etc. What that means is that while an instructed method of G-spot stimulation may send one woman over the moon, it might only create discomfort in another.
There's also a huge disbelief that all women enjoy having their G-spots stimulated. Many do, but many don’t. If it's not your cup of tea, that's fine.


Finally, the liquid that is released during true female ejaculation is prostatic fluid. Scientifically speaking, there's still some debate about whether all women can even produce this liquid.
The best way to stimulate your G-spot is to discover a way that works for you. The books are great for general tips, but after that, some self-exploration or some help from a partner is the best way to find what rocks your body.
4. You have to be willing to just let yourself relax.
There's a bit of irony in all the instructional articles and videos on how to achieve female ejaculation. That's because the best way to make it happen is to let it happen naturally. Trying all the new G-spot toys, creams, gels and other products on the market may be a waste of time and money if you don't know your body.


I’ve seen full on kits with gels, creams, a toy and a map (yes, a map). The truth is that they won't help if you don't learn to let your body naturally find its rhythm.
Pay attention to how your body reacts to different types of stimulation and keep mental notes of what works and what doesn’t. Pay attention to your body and listen to its cues.
Finally, stop being so focused on squirting. I guarantee the results will include more pleasure. Consider squirting a bonus.
Remember —  it’s completely fine if you don’t squirt.
As long as you’re happy, healthy and sexually connected with yourself and your partner you are well on your way to having better sex.
And really, isn't that what the fascination with squirting is all about?
More 'stimulating' content like this from Kinkly:
•Pop Your Cork: The Ultimate Guide to Squirting Orgasms

•8 Steps to Picking a Dildo That'll Rock Your World

This article was originally published at Kinkly. Reprinted with permission from the author.

You Really Can Think Yourself To Orgasm — And It's SPECTACULAR!

Bonus: Two simple methods you can try at home!
What’s the most powerful aphrodisiac? It’s not chocolate or oysters, it’s your mind!
Your brain is directly connected to your sexuality. When people deal with sexual anxiety, shame, or guilt, their bodies often can’t perform sexually.
So it also makes sense that you can make yourself orgasm just from the power of your mind!
Yes, that means having an orgasm without any touching at all.
You have probably heard about this phenomenon, whether it was through a Lady Gaga interview, the show Strange Sex, or one of your friends who is super into tantra. You probably think it’s total bullshit or something only a few lucky people can do.
Well, I’m here to tell you that anyone can do it!
It’s a skill, just like learning to ride your bike. You may have a hard time getting there at first, but the more you practice, the better you’ll become.
You may be wondering if this type of orgasm feels different than your normal run of the mill orgasm. The answer is yes. Instead of feeling a quick, grand release in your genitals, you feel pleasure throughout your entire body for a longer time. This orgasm is like a valley as opposed to a peak orgasm. Instead of feeling exhausted after your orgasm, you’ll feel energized!


So let’s get to the good part — learning how to do it!
Here are two different ways to approach "thinking yourself off."
1. The first way to have a hands-free orgasm is a form of meditation.
•Believe it’s possible.
When Barbara Carrellas, expert and teacher of this type of orgasm, orgasmed without touching herself in an MRI, the same parts of her brain lit up that do from any other type of orgasm. Carrellas has said that anyone can learn how to do this. If you don’t believe you can orgasm this way, it’ll never happen. Let yourself believe you are capable of this, because you are.

•Breathe deeply.
Focus on your breath by expanding your belly as you breathe in and letting all that air out again as you breathe out.
•Make noise.
Sigh as you breathe out or say anything that feels freeing to you. For instance, you can repeat “freedom" or “let go” as you breathe out.
•Get comfortable.
Lie on your back in bed. You can bend your legs or keep them straight, whichever is most comfortable for you.
•Let yourself feel deeply.
This is not about being turned on from external factors such as sexual images or fantasies. This is about looking within yourself. Let yourself feel any emotion that comes up, whether it’s happiness, sadness, or a new emotion you didn’t even know you could feel.

•Move your hips.
Move your hips upward as you breath out and move your hips downward as you breathe in. Get in a rhythm and continue.
•Surrender.
Let yourself totally let go as you lose yourself in this practice. Let your body feel this new type of pleasure.
Don’t worry if you don’t orgasm.
This takes practice, just like learning how to orgasm from touch.
Some may not orgasm the first few times or many times but that doesn’t mean it’ll never happen.
2. The second way to use your mind to reach orgasm is more sexual.
•Believe it’s possible.
See Step 1 above!
•Get your body turned on.
If you’re not already turned on, move your hips up and down to get the blood flowing.

•Pick your fantasy.
Think of a scenario that turns you on without judging yourself. The same fantasy that helps you orgasm while you masturbate will help you orgasm this way as well.
•Imagine you’re being stimulated in a way that brings you to orgasm.
If you orgasm from having your clit rubbed a certain way, imagine that happening in the fantasy and imagine what it feels like. If you feel your body react to this, keep imagining it happening consistently.
•Surrender.
Once again, the same as Step 7 above!
This sexual super power will bring you one more step closer to reaching your full potential as the goddess you are.


It can be hard to unlearn how we are taught to think about sex.
We have so much more sexual potential than many know is possible, and this is only one example of that. We have the potential to have meaningful and magical experiences through sex.


Once you open your mind, your whole sex life can transform!

5 Ways To Masturbate Yourself To Solo Orgasmic BLISS

Enjoy some alone time with these self-love tips.
I am going to show you how to masturbate the right way so that you can have orgasmic bliss on tap. You're really going to enjoy some of the techniques I teach you for having sex with yourself, but first I'm going to cover a few ground rules to ensure that you do everything right and have maximum fun.
I know that you just want the techniques. Don't worry — they're coming. I just want to teach you some important preparation you can do to make masturbation much more intense and your orgasms much stronger.
1. Make sure you're not going to get disturbed.
Obviously, if you are interrupted, then you aren't going to get to pleasure yourself. However, there is something much more subtle that can happen. If you are having sex by yourself and aren't totally sure that you won't be disturbed, then you will constantly be worrying about getting caught or disturbed. This fear and creeping worry will take you out of the moment and make it far less enjoyable.
2. Set a sexy mood.
Once you are sure that you're not going to get disturbed when learning how to masturbate, then it's time to start doing things that get you aroused and in the mood for sex before you actually start masturbating.
Everyone has their own specific wants, needs, and fantasies. You may need to just fantasize about a guy you like, but others may find reading a romance or erotica book helps the best. Others enjoy porn. So my advice here is to do whatever you need to do to get yourself in the mood. Now let's learn how to masturbate.


3. Use your hands correctly.
The easiest and cheapest way to masturbate is by using your hands. Follow this roadmap for using your hands to give yourself tons of pleasure:
•Start with a stroke. The first and easiest technique to perform is running your fingers over the outside of your vagina. So just simply drag your fingertips over your vagina and around your vagina, labia, and clitoris and make sure to focus on what areas feel the most pleasurable. After a minute of this, you may start to "itch" for something more. Don't give in just yet! Try to continue this for up to 10 minutes.
•Explore with your fingers. Once you've really worked yourself up, then it's time to start doing some exploring with your fingers. At this stage, you should already be quite wet. Start rubbing your finger in this wetness and then once your finger is wet too, start to slowly enter your vagina. Instead of just pushing your finger in and out, try pressing on your vaginal walls and massaging them and stroking them, paying close attention to what feels most pleasurable.
•Explore your clit. If you slide your hand down your stomach to your vagina, the first part of your vagina that you'll touch is your clitoris. It's incredibly sensitive, especially when you're aroused. Start by very gently running your fingers over it. Keep trying to adjust the pressure and speed that you stimulate it to find what feels most pleasurable. If you keep going at this and simply focus on doing what feels good, then you'll eventually reach orgasm.
4. Lube it up.


Once you've mastered the basics of how to masturbate and can easily reach orgasm, it's time to start adding more fun stuff into the mix. The first and easiest thing to consider is adding some massage oil or lube.
The great thing about using the right massage oil as you masturbate is that it can make every touch and caress feel far more intense. While you will see tons of massage oils and lubricants advertised everywhere you look, the best is coconut oil. You can get it in most major supermarkets, and it's very cheap too.
5. Use a dildo.
Now that you've tried out massage oil and have thoroughly explored everywhere down there with your fingers, it's time to use a dildo to masturbate. Nowadays it's easy to discreetly buy a dildo online and get it delivered in an unmarked box. You can even get them on Amazon!
Once you get a dildo, it's time to put it to work. Start by using it to rub the outside of your vagina. This will also help to get it wet so that it slides in without too much friction. Then it's just a case of sliding it inside you. From here it's a case of finding out what angle you enjoy the most and how deep you enjoy taking it.
Make sure to do a good bit of experimentation to discover what you enjoy the most:
•Slow and deep?
•Shallow and fast?
•Only one particular angle?
•A combination?
.......

Now that you know how to have sex with yourself, you may also be interested in learning how to have great sexual experiences with your man. If you are, then you may find this powerful video tutorial on how to give your man a great blowjob to be quite helpful.

The 6 Golden Rules For Going Down On A Woman (And Driving Her WILD)

Rule #1: Every vagina is different
Giving a woman oral sex is wonderful. But there have only been two partners in my life who have known how to do cunnilingus successfully (even though I have been assured that others know what they’re doing). So, from a woman, here are some basic do’s and don’ts that everyone needs to know about giving cunnilingus.
1. Do NOT repeat what you see in a porno.
That is all engineered for TV, not real life. Really great oral sex on a woman looks nothing like what you see in a movie. The only exception is lesbian porn — in that case, take notes.
2. Every single vagina is different.

Every single one. What worked on one will not work on another and what worked on the same one last week will likely not work as well this week. That’s all due to hormones.
3. Do not ask her if “that feels good,” as this sets you both up for failure.
Instead, show her moves that are fast or slow and ask which one feels better. This way you both can effectively communicate your way to better oral sex.
4. Let the tension build.
Start from the top with non-genital contact and move to erogenous zones all over her body — both front and back. This does two things: first, it allows her to relax. And secondly, relaxation equals safety and safety equal WAY better sex.
5. Be enthusiastic.

Let her know how much you like it, you want to do it, tell her how good she tastes. Afterward, tell her how much you enjoyed it.
6. And most importantly, be present.

All the technique in the world won’t help you if you’re not into what you’re doing. Sometimes your mind may wander but bring your focus back to her. If your erection wanes, no big deal. It’s normal for arousal to move through different stages. The important thing is to pay attention to her every moan, sigh, and move of her hips.

7 Ways To Achieve Multiple Orgasms That'll Blow Your Freaking MIND

Your body is capable of anything, ladies.
If one orgasm is great, are multiple orgasms even better? Not necessarily! Some women prefer having one big orgasm while others prefer multiple climaxes. But every women has the option to explore the pleasures of multiple orgasms.
If you aren't having orgasms most of the time you masturbate or have sex, check out this advice for having orgasms every time. If you have orgasms regularly, it's time to explore having multiple.
Orgasms release a flood of pleasure hormones, creating lasting health benefits. They boosts your immune system, help you sleep better and tone your cardiovascular system. They also elevate your mood, strengthen your relationship and give you an energy boost that can last for days.


Here's how every woman can start exploring the incredible experience of multiple orgasms.
1. Give yourself permission to let go.
A lot of women don't feel worthy of experiencing more pleasure. To achieve multiple orgasms, you need to give yourself permission to receive more pleasure, to take more time receiving stimulation from your lover, and to fully relax into the experience of being lavished with sensation.
Do you worry that your partner gets bored or tired while giving you pleasure? Check in and ask them. You'll probably find that they're more than willing to give you as much pleasure as you can take. In most cases, your pleasure is limited only by what you're willing to receive. So take the time to grant yourself permission to experience multiple orgasms.
2. Master erotic touching.


Most women don't experience orgasm through intercourse alone. The clitoris is the centerpiece of female arousal, so while you're exploring multiple orgasms, focus on clitoral stimulation. Fingers are the best tools for stimulating the female sexual system.
Encourage your lover to master fingering techniques so they can stimulate you with skill and confidence. Then relax and focus on enjoying all the pleasure they can offer you. Explore combinations of clitoral, G-spot and anal stimulation. By tapping into every part of the female sexual system you'll be able to build higher levels of arousal and sustain your pleasure over time.
3. Enjoy the build-up of the first orgasm.
Every experience of multiple orgasms begins with one orgasm. Enjoy the build-up to your first orgasm without worrying about what comes next. One orgasm offers emotional and health benefits that can last for days, so fully savor the arousal and climax every time.


Some orgasms are so powerful you may feel "done." Give yourself the option to simply relax and enjoy the afterglow. But if you feel like you can keep going, ask your partner to help you explore having more orgasms right away.
4. Stay connected with your partner.
After your first orgasm, you may need a few moments to recover before building arousal again. The trick is to stay connected, physically and emotionally, while taking a break from intense stimulation. Invite your partner to cup a relaxed hand over your vulva, and enjoy the feeling of heat and pressure as you take a few breaths.
Your lover can use their other hand to give you full body touch, spreading the erotic energy out through your entire body. Then, after a few moments, start building arousal back up toward another climax. If your clitoris still feels too sensitive, focus on G-spot or anal stimulation. Use all of the fingering techniques you've learned to stimulate in a variety of ways so no one spot gets over-stimulated.


5. Focus on your breathing.
If you start to get overwhelmed and shut down to the pleasure you're feeling, focus on taking a few deep breaths. Breathing relaxes your body and expands how much pleasure it can feel. Breathing also floods your bloodstream with oxygen, which allows your nervous system to work more effectively, literally expanding how much pleasure your brain can process.
6. Explore having multiple orgasms during masturbation.
It may be easier to achieve multiple orgasms on your own, when you can pay close attention to exactly how you're feeling in each moment and what your body is craving. Develop the ability to have multiple orgasms on your own and then bring those skills with you to partnered sex.


7. Pay attention to what your body wants.
How many orgasms can you have in a row? Only you can discover the answer to that exciting question. Some women like having two or three orgasms at a time; others go for seven, ten or more. But most of the time, you'll find the point where you feel totally satiated and saturated with pleasure.
Don't make it a race to see how many orgasms you can have; enjoy each sexual experience as a unique expression of your arousal in that moment. You may find that some days, one orgasm is plenty. On another day, you may be ready to have multiple orgasms. Let each time be an authentic expression.

3 Ways To Make Your Man’s Premature Ejaculation Problem A Thing Of The Past

You can last longer together.
In survey after survey, men rate "premature ejaculation" as one of their top two sexual concerns (the other being "penis size").
When a man is troubled by premature orgasms and ejaculation, a couple's sex life can be extremely disappointing for both parties, and often leads to couples ceasing having sex altogether and sometimes even to the end of the relationship entirely.
Yet, premature ejaculation can be worked through and overcome, and it is considerably easier and more enjoyable when you approach it together as a team.
While many researchers like to define premature ejaculation as ejaculation that occurs within a particular amount of time (often said to be 2 minutes), personally, I think Wikipedia’s statement is more accurate, “Today, most sex therapists understand premature ejaculation as occurring when a lack of ejaculatory control interferes with sexual or emotional well-being in one or both partners.”
True ejaculatory choice is ultimately achievable by any man — defined as ejaculation occurring only when and if a man chooses to.
If your man is suffering from rapid orgasms and ejaculation, however, at this point, you might just want him to last a bit longer, so let's start there. Here are 3 simple tips that can definitely help your man not finish quite so quickly in the bedroom.


TIP #1: The first, and most fundamental step, is to commit to shifting into a state of unconditional love and acceptance.
No matter how frustrated you are, chances are he is even more frustrated. It's incredibly frustrating to lack control over one's own body.


Not to mention, he may be beating himself up really hard about this. It is likely affecting his feelings of self-worth and sense of masculinity, and he may have simply given up all hope that he could be any other way.
He may have come to identify with the premature ejaculation as part of who he is, versus something that he is experiencing (and thus is changeable). Realize that no matter what his behaviors, words or actions are around this, chances are he's hurting.
Commit today to shifting into a state of unconditional love, acceptance and total support for your man through this process. Know that overcoming this requires both physical and psychological changes, and one of the biggest ways you can help him is to be there at his side through the process 100 percent.
If he feels pressured by you to overcome his premature ejaculation, it's going to have the opposite effect (much like a man pressuring a woman to have an orgasm. It just doesn't work!)


TIP #2: Get physical — Start Kegeling together!
If you aren't familiar with Kegel exercises, now's the time to get familiar.
Kegels are a set of exercises that strengthen your pelvic floor muscles, and they're highly recommended for both women and men. They will strengthen your orgasms and make it easier for you to have them while making it easier for him to delay ejaculation. (They have many other amazing benefits, as well).


So get to kegeling. Make it a game, and you'll both win! If you aren't sure what your PC muscles feel like, explore them together.
Press into his perineum (that space between his testicles and his bum) with your middle two fingers. As you do so, ask him to try to contract the muscle under your fingers. If you feel it suddenly get harder and contract under your fingers, he's got it.
Pressing there will also make it easier for him to locate the muscles and be able to tell when he's contracted them. To get started, simply have him squeeze and release the muscle 25 times. That's it.
Then switch!
While this won’t help his premature ejaculation, it can be a lot of fun and increase your sexual pleasure in the process, so hey, why not?


He can push his fingers either into that space between your vagina and your anus, while you contract, or even better, place a finger or two (or something else!) inside of your vagina while you practice squeezing around it. Same set of muscles and a whole lot more fun! Again, 25 squeezes and releases and you're on your way.
Do these exercises daily over the course of this challenge, increasing the number of kegels that you do by 5 every few days, and you will both begin to see the effects.
TIP #3: Slow down and breathe.
If sex for you is a race to the finish line, don't be surprised when he keeps coming out ahead.
Slow down! Then slow down some more. And then... even more.
In fact, you can even play with sitting on top of him, with his penis inside of you and not move at all. Simply enjoy the sensation and closeness of your bodies enmeshed in this way, and explore slow, deep breathing together.
When men start to get aroused, there is a tendency to start breathing more shallowly and more quickly (or even stop breathing entirely!) at the same time the muscles start to tense up. All of these things actually help to rapidly send him towards ejaculation, and he may not even realize he's doing it.


By taking control on top, you can encourage him to relax his body when you notice it tensing, as well as help him bring attention to his breathing patterns and simply enjoy these slow, deep inhales and exhales.
As you bring in more movement, maintain the slow, deep breathing patterns and continue to help him relax his body if it starts to tense up. It will make a huge difference!

Listening To Music During Sex Gives You Better Orgasms, Says Expert

Let's get it on...
It’s most definitely a cliché, but there’s a certain “set up” for sex scenes on the big screen. Think about it: you’re watching a romantic scene in a movie and the character gets dressed in their sexiest clothes, lights a bunch of candles, gets the wine ready, poses on the bed, and then presses play on a soundtrack guaranteed to make makin’ love a mind-blowing, ethereal experience.
However overdone it is on the big screen, Hollywood might actually have the right of at least one of those things being the key to awesome sex.
It turns out that music is actually a radical way to get yourself in the mood for love, increase your dopamine levels, revive a waning sex drive, and, according to researchers, even give you a rocking “skin orgasm.”


There’s no doubt that certain songs trigger the urge to get romantic in people. In Britain, a survey to determine the songs that people were most likely to associate with sex determined that Marvin Gaye’s "Let’s Get It On" was at the top of the charts, followed by Rihanna’s "Skin" and even Lil Wayne’s "Lollipop". These were the songs that people most used to “set the mood.”
Just about everyone has their preferred type of music to have sex to, and some people even have specific songs that get them ready. There’s no denying that music’s influence and the inextricable tie to sex are well known, but just why does it affect us this way?


Well, it turns out there are lots of reasons.
When we listen to music, it can help fire up some dopamine — the pleasure hormone — and get us happy. However, this same hormone is also released during sex, which means that our brains are essentially getting amped on the same drug, which means that we come to associate sex with music.
Another reason is that when we listen to music and get this increase in dopamine, we also start to associate it with whoever we’re with, which can evoke emotional feelings directly correlated to that person. If the relationship is a romantic one, then the songs that you listened to together also become inexorably tied to love, romance, and yes, sex.
Songs can literally “pump us up,” empower us and get our primal drives going. Neuroscientists have said that “virtually all people” respond more to a lower-pitched beat than they do to something higher, which is why most pop music doesn’t cut it in the bedroom. Anything with bass is quite soothing to our ears and can get your heart rate going and alter your mood.
Of course, this low tone can also cause quite a lot of vibrations, which people find... rather pleasing, for obvious reasons. Some people even have a physical response when they listen to music that produces a reaction similar to orgasm — trembling, sweating, arousal, increased heart rate— which is, in effect, your skin “orgasming” to the music and the dopamine you’re experiencing.
Music has a powerful, primal connection in our heads, and can literally change the way that we’re feeling, what we’re thinking about, or get us into a particular mindset.


It’s a wonderful experience that shouldn’t be taken for granted, so if you have a specific “sexy time” song that you love to play, then don’t be afraid to use it and light some candles, no matter how cliché it might seem, because it really does work.

Guys, A Happy Marriage Is TOTALLY Possible If You Give Her This ONE Thing

You're going to LOVE this.
Everyone wonders how to have a happy and successful marriage.
We see marriages that last forever dramatically contrasted with the ones that end in a bitter divorce, and wonder how things could go so differently. After all, don't all couples start out the same — in love and planning on "forever"?
So what is the secret to being the couple who makes it?
Is there something you could do to make your marriage a total success, or is it all just up to fate?
In our latest Expert video (which you can watch above), leadership coach Pam Denton finally shares the the happy marriage secret everyone's been waiting for: female orgasms.
Not the kind where she fakes it — but the real, mind-numbing, toe-curling orgasms that rock her world.

And yes, guys, that might mean you have to put some extra effort into pleasing your wife.
While it might be easier for you to have orgasms, it can take a little more work on your part to get her there (a little more foreplay can go a long way to helping!).
But it'll totally be worth it. Not just for a happy wife ... but a happy (long!) life together.
Here are three reasons you should make her orgasm a priority in your sex life:
1. A happy wife IS a happy life.
You've heard the saying, right?
Well, guys, it's true.
A happy wife means a happy household and nothing — NOTHING — keeps a wife happier than a fulfilling sex life with her husband.
After all, multiple studies have linked a fulfilling sex life with lowered stress levels.
She'll be calmer, more relaxed and filled the energy to take on the world.
2. It'll create more love in your relationship.
In her moments after the big-O, your wife is at peace.
She is relaxed, soft. She more in tune with her emotions and more receptive towards you.
Those blissful moments after sex allow for you to create more intimacy with each other that will last you until your next love-making session.
Added benefit? Science has shown that the hormone produced in men during sex discourages men from being tempted by other women! Talk about a good way to keep your marriage alive.
3. More sex.

Think about it, men.
Your wife is a lot more likely to want to have sex with you more if she know she'll get something out of it.
A lot of women say no because they're not in the mood to have sex just to deliver you yet another orgasm.
But if she knows she'll have one too, chances are you'll hear "yes" a lot more often.
The power to make your marriage last forever is yours. All you have to do is work for it.
If you have any questions about orgasms, sex, marriage or relationships in general, you can contact Pam or check out her website

60 Percent Of Women Admit To Doing THIS Awful Thing During Sex

Ladies, 60 percent of us are liars. As in, we're liars in the bedroom.
It doesn't come as much of a surprise to hear findings that say 60 percent of women fake orgasms. Nor is it shocking to hear the reasons why: we're tired; our guy is trying hard, so we want him to feel good; we just want sex to be over.
Again, no surprises there. But some men are speaking out against the fake orgasm, claiming, "Ladies faking orgasms perpetuates the idea that sex is for men and that their pleasure doesn't matter." Essentially, they believe that by faking our sexual climax, we're boosting the already-inflated male ego.

Are we just tools for the male orgasm? We'd like to think not. But in reality, faking it is a woman's choice to make. In an ideal world, two sexual partners would reach their climax at the same time, fall into a heavy, sweaty heap onto the bed, and cuddle until the sun rises or they're ready for round two.


But life isn't a movie or a romance novel. In most situations, men work hard to help a woman reach her climax. So, is it so wrong to fake an "oh!" face when we're ready to call it a night?
We're hurting ourselves just as much as we're hurting the man (hey, women need to climax, too!). It might be worse to say, "Alright partner, thanks for the effort, but I don't see it happening. No orgasm for me tonight."
Men don't need to be coddled, but they don't need to be defeated, either.

What Men Feel Like After Having An Orgasm

Here's what he's REALLY thinking ...
Orgasms. We all have them. I mean, if we have a healthy sexual life and happen to be consenting adults. You don't even need another person to have an orgasm that is hot as Hades, and it don't get much hotter than a fictionalized version of hell controlled by a Greek myth!
As women, we know how good it feels not just to have an orgasm, but how awesome it feels after you have an orgasm. Does anything on the planet beat that swimmy, delicious, buzzy, sleepy feeling of coming down from a stellar orgasm? I think not.
But men and women are different, and while we can try to put ourselves in their shoes, the truth is we will never know what it feels like as a man to have an orgasm or what it feels like for them AFTER they have one. I mean, we can always take a guess, but what better way to find out than by asking the men themselves?


So that's exactly what I did.
Okay dudes of the internet, describe how you feel right after you have an orgasm if you please!
•"I think clearly again."

•"Well, great, now my body's doing this thing outside my control and I'm going to have to clean up after it."◦"It's not as bad as, like, pooping my pants, but I don't find it pleasurable."

◦"Sensitive (physically), relaxed (emotionally), content (intellectually)."

◦"Immediately after orgasm, there is a 10-second window where I can actually make decisions that are not based on my dick. When that 10 seconds is up, though, I go back to being all about the nut."

◦"Blissful, relaxed, aware. A little bit like eating chiles."
 
◦"When I was a kid I never noticed the difference between orgasms, but as I've gotten older, I've found I have very different orgasms. In some cases, I feel pleasingly ball-sore, like the equivalent of sore muscles from a workout. Sometimes I'm immediately sleepy. Sometimes I wanna jump up and go do something, or get back to what we were watching. Sometimes (mostly) I wanna just lay around languorously."

◦"I couldn't say, to be honest. Mostly, it feels like a relief, I guess?"

◦"Tingle-y. Is that a word? I get the tingles and kinda feel like Emperor Palpatine just shot me with Force lightning."◾"Right after having an orgasm, it feels calm and quiet in my brain. It's one of the only times I'm not thinking about sex or having urges."

◾"When I was young, really guilty (damn you, Catholic upbringing). These days, profound accomplishment (damn you, SSRIs). "

◾"Hungry and tired."

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◾"Happy. Fulfilled."
 ◾"If the orgasm was satisfying, pleasantly exhausted; at times I start pondering completely different matters right after, as if the orgasm had energized me."

◾"The feeling slips through the mind the second you try to describe it, as it should. We seek it because it can't be described and because we can't remember how it feels once it's gone — not really. 'Both utterly connected and utterly disconnected from all things' would be my attempt."

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9 Most Erotic Lesbian Sex Stories That Will Turn ANY Woman Or Man On

Turns out everyone loves lesbians (even straight women)!
Some say there’s nothing sexier than a woman’s body. So it’s even hotter when there’s TWO women making love, getting it on, or just making time for a quick but mind blowing orgasm.
One of the biggest porn sites, Pornhub, released their stats and guess what? The lesbian category was the favorite among the ladies.
Because if I can be totally honest, if you’re in need of some masturbation material, what better way to get it than by watching people of the same sex? They have the same equipment as you do and know where all the good spots are.
It’s also probably a good idea to watch it with your lover, you know, to nudge them in the right direction toward an out of this world climax.


But, if WATCHING isn't your thing, we got you covered with some EROTIC lesbian sex stories that will leave you ready for a fun romp in the sack.


Who knew two lesbians who are so clean could get so dirty?

"I pushed her against the wall and started my assault on her neck where I knew she liked it most. As we were already in the shower, I had no reservations about using my tongue, so I licked her up her neck to her ear.
This elicited a gasp from her accompanied with her opening her legs a bit for me to slide one of my own between them. I dropped kisses all over her neck and collarbones while she ground her hips into me.
My hands slid from her waist to her ass, where I gripped her and lifted her higher into the wall. My hands then trailed to her breasts which were pressed into mine. I squeezed each one and worked my hands towards her already hard nipples.
I brought my mouth to each one and used my teeth and tongue to lash them individually. When I knew her nipples could get no harder, I peppered her chest with more kisses, sinking lower and lower towards her center."
READ THE FULL EROTIC STORY HERE: Rock Paper Scissors
Curiosity didn't kill this cat in this sex story.

"She is cautious, but it feels amazing.
She is grinding her pussy against my mouth, as I thrust my tongue up to meet her advances, her own efforts on my pussy are increased.
She has stopped being cautious or following my lead, she has found her enjoyment of the task and she is lost to it now. It feels wonderful.
She is pulling my climax to the surface without even trying. I start to call out to her, telling her how good it feels, how she is going to make me come. She too is going to come again, my mouth is eager to take her juices."
READ THE FULL EROTIC STORY HERE: Curious Friend

The more lesbians, the merrier!

"I was in absolute ecstasy, being fawned over by these girls.
They, too, ended up naked, our bodies entangled on maria’s king sized bed. I straddled Maria, as she sucked my rock nipples, rubbing my clit with her french manicured fingers.
The other girl, at some point identifying herself as Elise, knelt behind Maria, our lips locked in a deep, passionate kiss, which traveled over each others necks and bare shoulders.
The three of us lay down, legs intertwined, kissing, licking erect nipples, grinding as we had on the dance floor."
READ THE FULL EROTIC STORY HERE: San Jose



This sex story shows that a girl's got to do what a girl's got to do.

"I let my blouse fall to the ground, then take my hands, rubbing them over her chest, squeezing her tits, then slide them down her body.
I pull her dress up and over her body. She has on a little blue see through bra and matching thong. I kiss down her neck, my hands sliding over her smooth flesh, caressing her nice tits.
I kiss all along her exposed flesh, all around her chest, my lips teasing near her nipples. I stand up and slide my skirt down, letting it fall to the floor.
Running my hands up my legs, and caressing my panties, pressing them inside of me against my pussy.  I grind on my hand in front of her. I press my chest against her face, leaning in, and she begins kissing my exposed chest."
READ THE FULL EROTIC STORY HERE: An Unusual Job Offer

It only takes one special woman for an amazing lesbian encounter.

"I lay on my bed, my legs apart as forefinger, thumb and third finger closed around each nipple, flicking, rubbing and pulling my lust filled tips.
I was aroused beyond belief! My nipples were never satisfied — they didn't understand limitations to pleasurable satisfaction. I could play with them all night and still want more.
But nothing beats the feeling of another woman's lips around my buds, sucking and tugging at my nubs to bring me to a full and satisfying orgasm. Oh yes girls, I am one of those lucky women who can easily orgasm from a few wondrous moments of nipple rubbing. – And as I recently discovered with Katie, only a woman knows how to truly satisfy my lust filled needs when it comes to breast play.
Oh how I miss those lust filled sessions with Katie. Rubbing our breasts together, nipple to nipple, pulling, licking and sucking on each others pleasure points. Enjoying climax after climax."
READ THE FULL EROTIC STORY HERE: Nipple to Nipple Play



Friends become lovers in this seductive sex story.

"Her tongue darted between my lips, smooth and soft, her breath warm breathing me in as our breasts pushed against one another as our breathing got harder and faster.
She pushed herself up far enough to push a slim hand down my body to my breast, rolling the nipple between finger and thumb before breaking our kiss to take it in her mouth. I gasp as she nibbles it gently before moving back down my body the way she had come.
Her mouth landed on my clit. A direct hit, her gorgeous lips closing around it and lapping at it with her tongue. Her hands hold my hips still as I try to buck against her face, she is a master at getting me off like this, and I can feel an orgasm building in my pussy."
READ THE FULL EROTIC STORY HERE: The Two Of Us
This sex story reminds us you can find SO much in a bookstore. *wink*
"She leaned in to kiss me, and I felt the weight of her body lower against mine.
I opened my mouth to her, and put my arms around her. She slid down my body until she was kneeling on the floor in front of me.
Her hands moved up the outside of my thighs, to the waistband of my panties, and I lifted my hips off the couch to make it easier for her. She quickly, and roughly, pulled them down and off of me, leaving my sneakers and socks on.
She bunched my tennis dress up around my waist, revealing my pussy, with a slim strip of blonde hair, to the light. She put her hands under my ass and pulled me to her, rubbing her face in my slit before she started licking me, pressing my legs back."
READ THE FULL EROTIC STORY HERE: Bookstore Encounter


A casual lesbian encounter can be life-changing.

"Her tongue found my hot wet pussy and as she was licking and tongue fucking my pussy I felt her spank my ass cheeks, first one then the other, and that was all that it took.
I heard the words from what appeared to be far off, but it was my voice saying, Oh my God I'm going to cum, it's gushing, and gush I did with the strongest orgasm I have ever had, and I had to steady myself against the wall."
READ THE FULL EROTIC STORY HERE: Nightclub Songbird

Mind blowing pleasure can come when you least expect it in this steaming sex story.
"When I noticed the wet mark on her jeans and the wet mark on my jeans, she suggested we take our jeans off and we did.
She reached over and rubbed her hand on my soaking wet panties, and with a smile she removed them. Having me lay back she softly rubbed her fingers on my hot wet pussy, before plunging two of them deep in my pussy and as she was finger fucking me she lowered her head and was kissing my hot wet pussy.
It seemed like moments later that, being her English wasn't very good, signaled me to move further back in the chair like table and she would do me and I would do her, which didn't take me very long to move into position."
READ THE FULL EROTIC STORY HERE: Women's Festival

7 Reasons Every Healthy Woman Should Masturbate

It doesn't just feel great; there's also awesome health benefits!
We all know that masturbation feels good, but it's about so much more than pleasure. Saving some time for self-love can make sex with our partner better by teaching us more about our body and our pleasure zones.
While we usually only talk about men masturbating, we're going to focus on women masturbating. There are plenty of reasons why every woman should masturbate, and here are some amazing benefits:
1. You get to learn about yourself.
One of the major of benefits of masturbation, besides pleasure, of course, is that women learn about their bodies and what pleases them, and are then able to share that with a partner during sexual encounters. The more you know about your own body and pleasure, the more you can share with your significant other and the better connected you'll be to your emotional well-being.
"Once a woman knows her body she can take control of her own satisfaction and pleasure. Many women believe that 'some day my prince will come, and so will I,'" says Dr. Emily Morse. Rarely does that fairy tale end well without women doing the work on their own.
2. You have the chance to add some well-needed variety.
This also ensures a more pleasurable, complete sex life.
"Try out new toys, different techniques, and be open if you want to add some excitement to your masturbation routine," says Morse.


3. You can take some time to really relax.
Masturbation can also combat stress and mild depression, and even make for a better night's sleep.
4. You easily and painlessly alleviate menstrual cramps.
In addition to its mentally soothing benefits, for women masturbating during their period, they can help ease menstrual cramps.


5. You flush out all the nasty stuff from your vagina.
Masturbating can help flush out bad bacteria in the vaginal area.
Morse says, "During arousal, you secrete a vaginal mucus that helps to circulate all the fluid down there, in turn pushing out all the bad bacteria in the fluid and keeping both you and your vagina clean and happy."


6. It's good for your body.
For real. Masturbation is a healthy activity for women to engage in that can lead to the release of natural endorphins and all the pleasurable effects that brings, according to Dr. Jenny Jaque, OB/GYN.
7. It alleviates urinary tract infections.


Besides drinking cranberry juice, masturbation helps flush out old bacteria from the cervix, giving UTI sufferers some relief.
So, if you haven't already figured out why every woman should masturbate, it's not only good for you but is incredibly fun.

The Truth About Why Guys Masturbate So Much (As Told By Guys)

It's a little weird.
As women, we all have sex drives. They can be low or they can be high, but they exist. Many women masturbate to achieve orgasm because of these aforementioned sex drives.
This still comes as a shock to folks because well, female masturbation isn't talked about the same way male masturbation is talked about.
This is a fact that used to drive me nuts until I realized one critical thing: Men and women have VERY different relationships with self-pleasuring.
When I started talking to my female friends about male masturbation, they all seemed baffled by the way in which the men they know handle it and how men really think about it.
"For me, [masturbation] is like a special private sexy time, but for him, it's like brushing his teeth," said one friend.


This got me wondering: How often does the common man really masturbate, and what's his relationship with that masturbation like?
I did some Googling (as one does on the internet) and found loads of conflicting data when it comes to male masturbation.
So I decided to conduct my own experiment and ask the men I know: Have often do you masturbate? What's your relationship with masturbation like?
•“When I was single: 2-4 times a day. Now that I'm in a relationship: 2-4 times a week (sadly not because of insanely copious amounts of sex, it's just more enjoyable when you're ‘hungry’)”

•“5-6 times a week. Basically, most days unless I don't get a chance to. It’s not always about being horny, sometimes it’s just about the stress relief.”◦“Far too often. Used to be twice a day, now it's maybe once a day. More often than not though that one session consists of two orgasms. Meaning that it could be counted as two, I guess. It’s like an itch I have to scratch. It’s very different than sex.”

◦“Once a day before bed for sure. If I'm bored and not doing much sometimes it's twice before bed. On days off when I'm alone I usually will toss out two more-ish. If my wife and I have sex before I go to bed then I don't need to rub one out. I would say I average about twice a day. It’s not out of need: it’s out of boredom.”

◦“When I'm single, 3-5 times a week. When I'm not, a lot more often because when I have somebody I'm attracted to, so my sex drive goes nuts and it's really weird.”

◦“When I was a teenager up to five times a day. I was constantly horny and didn't have much else to do. Now it's like once a day, but it can be more or less than that. If I'm traveling, for example, I usually don't jerk off at all because I feel weird doing it in a hotel even though I know it's not weird. If I have my apartment to myself for the weekend, it's like a non stop masturbatory party.”
 
◦“Once or twice a day. Worth noting that in some of these instances I'm masturbating as I fall asleep — it’s better than Ambien.”◾“It varies a lot. A couple months ago, it was around 2 times a day. I haven't done it in 2 weeks, and even then that was just a, "Huh I haven't done that in a while, I should do that.”

◾“Daily, usually. It's a nice form of stress relief and I haven't been with anyone else in over two years, so it's not like my sex drive has any other real vent.”

◾“I don't think my habits are normal, but I go for like 2 or 3 weeks without masturbating and then think, "Huh, it's been a while," and masturbate. Then I remember how much I like it and start doing it really often (like, twice a day or possibly more if I've got lots of free time and nobody is around), and this goes on for a week or two until I just get sick of masturbating and have no desire to do it again for 2 or 3 weeks.”

◾Three times a day minimum. Once after waking up. Once before sleeping. Once before/after lunch. I also masturbate while I play online poker to relieve stress. When I had a girlfriend, it was also three times a day; it was too routine for me to give up.”

◾“I [do] it 12-15 times a week. Twice a day. Once in the morning after I work out, once after lunch. If you don't do it, the stress of my job, it'll make you explode. Or worse, you'll implode. You don't wanna implode.”
 
◾“It varies and has varied even more as I've aged. Once a day is not excessive. More importantly: It has nothing to do with you or how he feels about you. Sex and masturbation are 2 different, albeit related, physical/psychological acts. Masturbation is ME TIME. Taking a nap does not mean I don't love standing up or never plan to do it again."
So there you have it. From the horse's mouth!
Some men love masturbating and do often, others not so much, while others view it as a chore.

Hearing all of these responses had me asking a couple of more questions. What I found out made my relationship with my boyfriend's own masturbatory habits infinitely more comfortable.
Do men HAVE to masturbate?
No, but that doesn't stop them!
There's an old joke about men and masturbation: 98% of them masturbate, and the rest are lying.
In fact, the numbers tell us something else all together. Masturbation isn't medically necessary, but because it feels good, people like doing it.
In fact, just 61% of men polled (albeit in a face to face interview) admitted to masturbating in the past years.

"The vast majority of men masturbate sometimes — even if they're in a long-term and happy sexual relationship," says Dr. David Devlin. "There are some men who don't masturbate. But these are mainly men who don't want to do it because of religious reasons or because they're a bit uptight about sex. Also, some guys who have a fairly low sex drive don't masturbate. Some men — mostly from eastern cultures — try to avoid masturbating because they believe it depletes their energy and may shorten their lives. But there's no truth whatsoever in this belief."
How often should men masturbate?


The only "ideal amount of masturbation" is the one you create for yourself. While masturbating infrequently might indicate a low sex drive, that's not always the case.
Whatever works for you, brings you joy and pleasure, and doesn't cause you harm is your personal ideal amount of "you" time.
Is there such a thing as too much masturbation for men?
Here's some awesome news for all of you worried that your dude might be masturbating too much.
"There’s no magic number when it comes to a healthy masturbation habit," says Dan Drake, a certified sex addiction therapist and clinical counselor. "However often you masturbate is fine as long as it doesn't negatively affect your life."


How can it do that? When it actually injures the penis or he stops being able to ejaculate or his work or home life suffers.
These can be indicators that your man has an unhealthy relationship with masturbation and that he might benefit from talking to a doctor.
So unless he's chafed and obsessed, your dude isn't masturbating too much. He's just male, and men have a different relationship with their masturbatory life than women do.

How To Make A Man Last Longer In Bed

Hold on tiger!
If he gets a little excited and can’t hold back, consider it a compliment. You and you alone (well, usually) are doing that to him. Of course, understanding how to make him orgasm more slowly and last a little longer would certainly be advantageous for you as well, am I right? Yes, yes indeed.
Well, if you’ve got someone who is “quick on the draw,” here are some tips to stave off that orgasm just a little bit.
1. Practice edging.
Whether it’s manual, oral, or penetrative sex, adopt a start and release “method” to help him stay on the journey. What does this mean exactly? It means to start and stop, essentially.This can be frustrating for people who are about to climax when their partners “stop” doing what they like for whatever reason, but the start and stop can really help delay him from exploding, as well as build up to an even more intense orgasm
.
2. Use trigger moves sparingly.
If he’s a guy that goes gaga over doggy style or perhaps deep throating, you need to use those trigger moves sparingly. Perhaps you enlist a serious deep throat tactic once you’re ready to be done, or you start letting him go doggy style, only to switch to another position.

If the length of his performance (not his part) is an issue, you need to only pull out his favorite moves
 when you are ready to close the shop for the evening, so to speak.
3. Finish, rest, and restart.

Okay, so this strategy won’t work for men who can’t perform more than once within a desirable time period. If you have a man who can get erect and go quickly thereafter, let him orgasm and then dive back in. This means you may climax while he has a second “softer” orgasm, but you still get to have your cake and eat it too.
4. Avoid rapidity and depth.

You know what I'm talking about. Whether you’re a woman with a man or a man with a man, watch your speed and depth.
That means don’t go intensely fast whether it's oral, hand or penetrative sex of any kind, and be careful how deep you go, whether it’s taking him in your mouth completely to the base of his penis or letting him penetrate you.
If you want to go deep and fast, you’ll have to employ control, so this means alternating fast with slow and shallow with deep.
5. Use a code word.

If he doesn’t want to say, “Hey there, I’m going to orgasm,” you could have him adopt a code word so as he’s getting closer, you can pull back in the act without much disruption to your mood. You two can pick whatever code word you want, as long as it doesn’t totally kill the sexy mood.
6. Pause to massage him.
If you’ve got a repeat fast offender, take pauses to massage. This way, if you two are deep in penetrative sex and you feel he’s ready to finish too quickly, you can stop without sitting there and doing nothing “fun.”
Have him massage you so as to help him regain his composure for a bit. You can return the massage but be careful what you “massage.”
7. Flip the focus.

He’s having a hard time going longer. You’re feeling a little frustrated. How to manage this? Flip the focus to you.
Maybe take a timeout from touching or having sex with each other and, instead, let him focus on you and let you finish first. Or, just take time to focus on you so he can recoup without you losing your horny edge.
8. Use a small trick.
Can he orgasm twice or does he have one small orgasm and another huge one? If you’ve got a man with this sort of talent, then you need to let him get off — not with the thunder that a deep throat or another hot trick you know that he loves, but with a small bang, so he can still prep you for your “takeoff.”
9. Have more sex.

The more you two have sex, the more he’ll learn to hold back. Sometimes, it’s just he’s out of practice or hasn’t seen you in a long time, and that’s what makes him orgasm so quickly.
10. Be strategic.
He’s a ten-minute man, but if you walk in with the lingerie or you pull out the surprise BJ? Yeah, he’ll be a five-minute man in that instance.
Be smart. Use his favorite tricks when you are ready for him to orgasm, or if it’s been ages since you two had sex, as much as you want to be his fantasy for the night, keep a bit mild and let the anticipation build so he stays the course.