People Confess How Sex Has Changed Them As A Person

It’s safe to say that most of us can remember the first time we had sex. Whether or not it was exactly what you imagined, it’s a huge part of growing up. Believe it or not, sex changes people, both physically and emotionally. Some people don’t notice it right away, while others see an almost immediate change. Here, 15 Reddit users confess how sex has changed them as a person.

Ego. “I had quite the ego. I wanted to think I was above being human, and having a sexuality wasn't compatible with the idea. In the end I realized that I was clearly human with my own wants, and sex taught me that,” says an anonymous Reddit user.

Intense. ”I am the father of two and they are the most enriching part of our lives. My wife has actually commented that our sex lives have gotten more intense after giving birth to our two little angels. It also has been a motivator in wanting to communicate on different levels. Different strokes for different folks but I couldn't live with myself thinking I made sex my main priority in an existence that offers so much mor,” says Reddit user defjanitor.

Growing up. ”Sex is a really complex thing and it makes you grow up quickly. In an odd way you see the world a lot differently. It's bigger and clearer. The person you have sex with becomes different. You see them as something close, maybe even a part of you. You've never seen another person like that before. It changes the way you see people,” says an anonymous Reddit user.

Hobby. ”Safe to say sex has been a serious game changer for me. Back in the ol' virgin days, I was terribly shy and had pretty miserable self confidence. I'm super outgoing now, and I see myself as sexy- which despite what they tell you, sometimes takes someone else seeing it first. Aside from the complete change of attitude,I survive on sex- literally. I work at an adult store and I cam for extra moolah. It's my hobby, it's what I enjoy,and it's what I'm knowledgeable and talented at,” says Reddit user Buggiebee.

Goals. ”Sex is one of the most important things in my life, so my goals and priorities changed. My wife and I don't want kids now. That could damage our sex life. We are also very careful to avoid living outside of our means. That way, we don't have to work all day and can afford more time for sex,” says an anonymous Reddit user.

Personality. ”I was gonna say it hasnt changed me at all...because really, im the same person (the way i dress, act, whatever.). but i guess i look at the person as more than just someone i want to get naked. Experiences have reinforced that theres more to a person than looks and i find myself looking more at personality and morals and stuff. Granted, physical attraction is always needed in a relationship, but i feel like talking to someone and learning more about them can actually make them more attractive (and less, works both ways) than i may have originally felt,” says Reddit user pvtsn0ballz.

Trust. ”Its helped me in so many aspects. It has helped me trust again (most specifically having a partner I can trust and open up to), that its ok to say no, but most importantly, that its ok to say yes!!! I too was raised with religious shame and that sex was shameful. It is not. It is beautiful, thrilling, and emotional. It is not something I should deny myself or my partner because a religious figure decided celibacy is more important. It is ok to be intimate with someone, it is ok to be pleasured, and it is Ok to want it again! It is natural and can help bring two people a lot closer in their relationship,” says Reddit user MamaD_Cooks.

Confidence. ”Made me more confident. Had some less than positive (and consensual) sexual encounters in the past, but now sex time with my gf is a huge ego boost instead of being traumatic (with previous relationships. This girl rocks),” says Reddit user londonmeanswild.

Control. ”It completely controls me. Every action I take in life is to get more sex. Job, working out, hobbies, etc. I wish I could turn off my sex drive completely. It ruins my life. I'm tired of feeling like a raging silver-back gorilla, dying to spread my seed. I just want to feel normal. The need and urge for sex gives so much power over the opposite sex. I wish my sex drive didn't exist without the hormonal repercussions,” says Reddit user DrDeath666

Bonus. ”I’ve tried to keep sex from changing me. It is not a big part of my personality or my decision making, it is just a bonus of being with the woman I love,” says Reddit user uniqueOddity83.

Addiction. ”Sex has dictated an amazingly large part of my life actually. I lost my virginity at an obscenely young age, and it became a lifelong obsession, an addiction. I almost lost my husband due to cheating, I just needed More. We managed to reconcile our relationship by making this a part of it, instead of a problem, and I became a hotwife. Now, we have a baby, from sex obviously, and sex isn't happening between us or anyone else, and I have been incredibly depressed and out of sorts. Sex changes everything!” says an anonymous Reddit user.

Confident. ”It's made me ooze sexual confidence almost everyday. I dress, I speak, and I throw glances to show that I want to fuck every attractive man within a kilometre radius. I've been told, even in innocent profile pictures on Facebook that I have ‘bedroom eyes’. Well - maybe I do,” says Reddit user ebonyfaye.

Lonely. ”It's made me more lonely and depressed than ever, helped me to realize that what I really want is love. I've only been in love once and I threw it all away but I still think about her every day,” says Reddit user asd123throaway.

Cooler. ”Losing my virginity, and then realizing I didn't magically become 'cooler' made all the difference for me. You discover sex isn't some one stop solution to becoming awesome. Then again, it has definitely made me more confident in handling sexual encounters, when previously I would have just screwed up or behave in some awkward manner. Also, I'm guessing my sexual confidence might have spilled over into other areas of life, perhaps, but I can't quite pin it down,” says Reddit user rm4lkiel.

Cuddling. ”Depends on which sex we are referencing. Long term monogamous sex has made me a pro at cuddling. I wake up at the slightest movement from my lover, adept to his every snore, whisper,” says Reddit user capnsalty.