Multiple orgasms ain’t all that and 7 other sex myths busted

YOU'VE probably heard a million different pieces of advice when it comes to sex...it's hard to know what to listen to.

After all, haven’t we all at some point wondered if we’re missing out when it comes to sizzling sex?

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Think you know everything about sex? It turns out you may have a few things wrongCredit: Getty - Contributor

Your best friend confides her multiple orgasms are mind blowing and a "must", or that colleague that says sex simply isn’t worth having if you two don’t climax together.

Such things given as facts are potentially damaging and all-too-fragile sexual confidence takes a knock.

But trust me, forget half of what people tell you, they over-state and outright fib about their sex lives.

Here's seven sex myths busted to clear up confusion in the bedroom...

Myth 1: Multiple orgasms are a mind-blowing must

Only 10-15 per cent of women say they’ve experienced multiple orgasms.

And it’s not every time they have sex.

To make multiple orgasms a goal is another damaging pressure.

A single, truly satisfying, orgasm is by far enough.

Myth 2: Men want more sex than women

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You may think that men want it more than women but actually a man's libido drops first in a relationshipCredit: Getty - Contributor

Not true! Early in a relationship many women don’t have the confidence to initiate sex.

They wait for him to make a move, making it appear that men want more sex.

Plus in long-term relationships it’s more likely the man’s sexual desire dwindles first.

Some men appear to put sex in a compartment – something they enjoyed early on but aren’t that bothered about as time goes by.

Whereas many women see physical intimacy as a sign the entire relationship is still working.

I hate to generalise, but they feel an emotional connection through sex with their partner.

Plus as women mature their sexual confidence grows and they know what works for them – and want it! Knowledge they didn’t have in their 20s and even 30s.

Myth 3: It's bad sex if you don't orgasm

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Just because you don't orgasm it doesn't mean you don't experience sexual pleasureCredit: Getty - Contributor

There’s enormous pressure to make orgasms the goal of sex.

This stops people enjoying "mindful-sex" – being in the moment, experiencing the pleasurable sensations during foreplay.

Far fewer people would complain about bad sex if they’d simply remove the orgasm goal.

You might have fantastic foreplay but are simply too tired to reach orgasm. That doesn’t mean you didn’t have sexual pleasure.

Stop focusing on the end result, start enjoying the journey.

Myth 4: There's something wrong with you if you don't orgasm

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If you don't orgasm during penetrative sex there is nothing wrong with you, foreplay is just as importantCredit: Getty - Contributor

Just because porn stars seem to orgasm the moment penetration starts this simply isn’t the case for 70 per cent of women.

About 30 per cent climax fairly regularly during full penetration, but for the rest?

They fake it or reach orgasm through other methods like oral sex.

An orgasm had through oral or manual stimulation, or with sex toys, is as good as an orgasm through penetration.

Myth 5: Sex should be like porn

A film’s a film – it’s scripted, it’s make-believe.

While porn can be fun for a couple to watch occasionally, it should be treated as total fantasy.

Never, ever pressure yourselves to have sex like porn stars.

Myth 6: Using sex toys ruins your enjoyment of sex with your partner

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Using sex toys doesn't mean you won't enjoy sex with your partner again...in fact you can make it a shared experienceCredit: Getty - Contributor

This myth is damaging for women, making them feel guilty about enjoying toys.

And it’s damaging for men thinking they’ll be redundant if their partner loves some sex-toy-joy.

Sex toys are fantastic for sex-play together and  when flying solo.

Make it a shared sex-perience - with toys for both of you – and neither of you will buy into this myth.