When things are heating up, there are a few obvious places you want your partner to hit: your lips, your nipples, your clit (duh). But when it comes to erogenous zones for women—those crazy-sensitive hot spots that can take you from zero to gotta-have-it-right-now—that's barely scratching the surface. Your body is covered in hot spots you may never have even thought to explore. "An erogenous zone is anywhere on the body that has a heightened sensitivity and can elicit a sexual response when stimulated," explains Jane Greer, Ph.D., a sex and relationship expert. To take things up a notch in the bedroom, venture into some new erogenous zone territory.1. The nape of your neck
If you're a neck person, you know it. "The nape and back of your neck have so many nerve endings that a light touch is all that's needed to drive you—and your partner—wild," says Greer. Ask your partner to lightly run the tips of their fingers up and down your neck as you kiss (or do it to them to drop a hint). To heat things up even more, establish a no-kissing-on-the-lips rule and have your partner focus on your neck instead.
2. Your pubic mound
OK, it's not the sexiest-sounding body part, but the area above the pubic bone can be an electrifying spot when stimulated properly. “Your pubic mound is connected to your genitals and sexual response thanks to sensitive nerve endings and glands that emit pheromones [chemicals your body produces that can trigger a sexual response from others], natural body scent, and sweat,” says Shannon Chavez, a psychologist and certified sex therapist in Los Angeles.
To activate it, have your partner start by massaging the area with light pressure, which can work to increase arousal. Lightly massaging the skin between your fingers or having your partner gently suck and pull on the sensitive skin using their mouth will really fire off some tingling sensations, Chavez says.
3. Your inner thighs
Before going straight for the lady bits, have your partner spend some time teasing your inner thighs. The skin is super sensitive there and packed with nerve endings, which means it's extra sensitive to your partner's nibbles, nips, and licks. If you really want to kick it up a notch, ask your partner to "trace an ice cube up and down [your thighs] and explore that new sensation," suggests Greer.
4. Your armpits
Yes, really. If you can get past a little sweat, hair, and taboo, your armpits can be a surprising erogenous zone, says relationship expert Cory Beth Honickman. Think about it this way: Your armpits are super sensitive. The same thing that makes them so ticklish can also make this spot a surprising turn-on.
Here's how to explore: Have your partner take the tips of their fingers and gently brush your underarms. First, lightly go up and down before shifting to a brisk, circular motion, paying close attention to what elicits the best response. “The sensation of being tickled teeters on the brink of sexually thrilling,” says Honickman. It’s playful, sure, but also seductive.
5. Your ears
“Although ears are considered to be highly erotic, they are often overlooked, making them an even hotter spot when you want to crank things up in bed,” says Emily Morse, sexologist and host of the Sex With Emily podcast. “The ears are actually very sensitive to touch because there’s a massive number of sensory receptors.”
Kick things off by having your partner lightly trace the C-shaped outline of your ear with their fingertips while you’re kissing. Gentle kissing and nibbling can also set off fireworks. This can be an especially powerful move when done in tandem with some below-the-belt action—it might even help you climax or intensify your orgasm.
6. Your stomach
“The area of the stomach between the belly button and pelvis in particular is a lesser-known erogenous zone,” explains Tristan Weedmark, We-Vibe’s resident sex expert. Why? With the right touch, you can actually stimulate the G-spot from the opposite side. Plus, the area just above your pelvis can be a major tease. “The lower stomach is so dangerously close to the vagina and clitoris that the thought of moving farther south is also particularly exciting for many women,” Weedmark says. "Light stimulation promotes blood flow to other erogenous zones."
This area is also great for playing a bit with temperature: Have your partner delicately place a hot or cold washcloth on the skin just above your pelvis before oral, or playfully dangle it from above to brush the skin teasingly.
7. Your hands
“The hands are extremely sensual. Even a light tight touch can gently produce waves of sensation," says Chavez. She even goes so far as to call them one of your most important sex organs. "When you suck them, you’re actually having a form of oral sex," she says. "If a partner sucks on a finger and massages it with the tongue, it sends the signal to the reward center of the brain similar to sex." Have your partner gently kiss the sensitive pads of your finger tips, using their tongue to draw slow circles. If you're into it, try a little light suction.
8. The bottoms of your feet
“The feet contain pressure points that trigger arousal and they’re also packed with nerve endings,” says Weedmark. Since some people are ticklish down there, you’ll want to focus on firm, steady strokes over light and tickly motions. Think of it more like a massage (which is pleasurable in any context).
9. Your lips
It may seem a little old-fashioned, but your lips will always be one of the hottest erogenous zones for women. “Lips are the most exposed of all erogenous zones, and are packed with a bunch of nerve endings located very close to the surface of the skin," says Morse. "They’ve got 100 times more than our fingertips.” Even the slightest touch to your lips releases a happy rush of feel-good hormones to your brain that can affect your emotions as well as your nether regions, she explains. “Use your own lips, teeth, and tongue to lick, nibble, and caress your partner's top and bottom lip, experimenting with different amounts of pressure,” says Morse. When you come up for air, seductively trace the outline of your partner’s lips with your thumb while locking eyes with them and then get back to it.
10. Your butt
Butt stuff isn't for everyone. But for many women the anus is a serious hot spot. "There are lots of sensitive nerve endings in the anus, so that can be a hot and heavy place for people," says Jenni Skyler, Ph.D., a sex therapist at The Intimacy Institute in Colorado. That said, what feels good for one woman may not turn on the next, so play around with it and see what works for you. "For some people, this could just be caressing the outside of the butt cheeks and the rim of the anus," Skyler says. "For some people it's licking, for some people it's very light penetration, and for some people its full penetration."
11. Your brain
According to Skyler, the brain is the most central erogenous zone for women. If our brain is not in the mood—if we're too stressed, tired, whatever—that blocks the rest of the body from being able to act on arousal, she explains. After all, sex is only sexy if you're in the right mind-set. "Establishing a genuine connection before getting physical will only help make things hotter in the bedroom," Skyler says.
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