Women Reveal The Exact Moment They Want Their Man To Climax

For most people, the purpose of having sex is to reach the peak, to climax. The amount of time it takes for men and women to orgasm varies depending on the person and on the position. Most women find that they’re unable to climax simply from penetration, which means their partners usually have to put in more work in other ways. But sometimes, men tend to climax first and completely forget their partner’s needs, leaving them unsatisfied. Here, 15 women confess what the ideal moment for their partner to climax is, so that they’re both satisfied.

Finish us first. "There's nothing worse than having sex with a guy who's done in five minutes, and then gives a half-hearted effort at getting you off because he's too tired, and there's nothing in it for him since he's already been taken care of. Women statistically take longer to reach orgasm. Get us there first, and we'll be even more happy and eager to make you [orgasm]. I've actually pulled a guy out of me before and insisted that he bring me to orgasm before allowing him back in me. Harsh? Maybe. But you've got to do what you got to do,” Darla tells Askmen.com.

Focus. "Honestly? It depends. I love making him [orgasm], and I do get genuine pleasure out of it, but there are times when I want to be the focus and he can wait for a little while,” says reddit user EstherHarshom.

Begging. ”I usually love to make my man beg for his climax. I love teasing him until he can’t hold it in anymore and is literally on his hands and knees waiting for his orgasm. That sense of control turns me on so much,” says 26-year-old Michelle from Colorado.

Stamina. "It's not so much the duration that matters to me as it does that the orgasm is intense and genuine, and that he really has lasted until he could not possibly hold it in any longer and gave it his all, you know? Obviously no one wants a one minute man, and if that's truly only how long you can hold it I'd say it's time to start practicing some stamina,” Genevieve tells Askmen.com.

Quickie. "I'm really into doing it in public places, so for me, if we're trying to pull off a quickie in the back of a cab or a bathroom stall, I'm going to need for you to finish pretty quickly. If we've got all the time in the world to go at it, which honestly I think gets kind of monotonous, I'd say anywhere from 8-10 minutes. If you're willing to change things up and not just put the P in the V for the entire duration of the act, it can go on for longer,” Carly tells Askmen.com.

After. ”I think it’s important for a man to orgasm after he’s made his partner orgasm first. Most men don’t want to finish what they’ve started after they’ve climaxed, leaving their partners unsatisfied,” says 22-year-old Jenna from Alabama.

After a few times. "The best sex I ever had was this guy who used to never actually finish until we had done it at least 4-5 times throughout the night. Everything he did was so painfully slowed down (but in a good way), and he had so much control over his orgasm that he'd give it to me in 20-minute intervals in various positions, taking breaks to go down on me, play with my nipples, etc. Then we'd 'break' and cuddle and stuff, and then we'd go back at it again. He'd never actually finish until the fourth or fifth time, and when he did it was always a huge load,” Emma tells Askmen.com.

Intense. ”I love the idea of mutual orgasms, even though they’re not always plausible. Ideally though, I’d love for me and my man to orgasm at the same time because it makes sex that much more intense,” says 32-year-old Laura from Virginia.

After a few positions. "The ideal time for a guy to finish is once we've gone through a bunch of positions and acts. Nothing kills my vibe like a guy finishing two minutes into [oral sex] that was supposed to be foreplay,” Vicky tells Askmen.

Before me. ”I actually kind of like it when my guy orgasms before me. This way he has to spend extra time on me without complaining that it’s his turn since he’s already climaxed,” says 27-year-old Rebecca from California.

Anytime. ”My guy never finishes and it makes me crazy. We've been together for a couple months now and he's only [orgasmed] once. I just want so bad for him to [orgasm] all over me. His body doesn't see [orgasming] as the peak, and I very much do (I always [orgasm] a million times with him, so I really shouldn't have any complaints!) I just want him to use me until he [orgasms]. I feel like a jerk for not making him [orgasm],” says reddit user banana2022.

Selfish. "Personally, an orgasm from him is the ultimate sign of pleasure. It's so sexy and I know he loved it. Making him climax makes me feel incredible. When he doesn't, I feel badly that I couldn't do that for him. I also feel very selfish, because orgasms are so easy for me, so if he doesn't, I've climaxed so much and just feel selfish for being able to get there,” says an anonymous reddit user.