You May Be Destroying Your Sex Life By Having Too Much Sex

When you hear most people talk about ailing love lives, it’s often because there’s no sex happening. The complaints often talk about how there was once a lot of sex, but now, it’s gone the way of the dodo. Sexperts and sexologists are now saying that the possibility of ruining your sex life due to too much sex is a very real issue that many couples face. Here’s how it happens, and why.

Too much sex is a very possible issue for many people. Just like with almost any other activity, there is such a thing as “too much of a good thing” when it comes to sex. Doctors actually have a name for this bedroom issue, and it’s called “hypersexuality,” and it’s actually fairly common.

How much is too much? What is defined as too much sex can vary from couple to couple, but more often than not, if you have to ask how much is too much, you already know where you stand. A smart rule of thumb is that you’re having too much (or too little) sex when one partner feels uncomfortable with the frequency.

Too much sex can have both physical, emotional, and mental problems. Hypersexuality is a real disorder, and in many ways, it almost acts similar to an addiction. In many cases, hypersexuality turns into addiction in which one partner may lose control of their ability to keep it in their pants. It can ruin relationships, and also even ruin employment potential for the ones who suffer from it.

This often leads them to pursue sex that’s increasingly kinky or otherwise intense. For the one who’s initiating all the sex, this can mean escalating behavior that their partner may not feel comfortable with. In many cases, the sheer amount of bizarre sex can lead partners to break up with them.

And, cheating often becomes a big problem, too. Nothing quite kills a couple’s sex life together like having one partner cheat on the other. This often can lead to breakups and other major conflicts as well. Sex lives usually don’t fare well after infidelity has been discovered.

The other partner may also feel pressured to perform. Keeping up with a hyperactive sex drive is very hard, and expecting a partner to keep up with it can take a major emotional toll on them. They may feel “underequipped,” or they may feel like they just aren’t enough for the partner. This can lead to self-esteem issues that manifest in the bedroom.

They also may end up feeling bored with sex. The truth is that, for most of us, sex gets boring after the first hour or so. If you’re constantly feeling badgered for sex and constantly having sex in the same positions or with the same kinks, it’s not going to bode well for your interest in doing the deed.

In some cases, partners may end up agreeing to acts they really don't want to do. And this can build resentment between both partners. Needless to say, there may even be a chance that the partner who doesn’t have that high a drive may actually lose interest in any sort of physical contact whatsoever if this happens.

And, it can also lead to one partner feeling violated. If things get very out of control, the partner in question could feel like they’re being used for sex, or that their partner may really not want to actually be with them at all. As a result, this can often be the reason they shut down sex - or the relationship altogether.

Then, there's the “touch overload” issue. If you’ve ever had hands on you for 12 hours straight, then you already know how much of a nightmare it can be to actually feel over touched. This can lead to less cuddling, which leads to less bonding. And, less bonding leads to less satisfaction with sex and the relationship overall.

But, generally, things are okay if BOTH partners are into sex at the same amount. As long as your libidos are both matched, it shouldn’t be an issue. In that case, it may just be the way you are as a couple - and that’s okay. Some libidos are higher than others, and if it works, let it work.

That being said, if you’re having too much sex, you may want to dial it back. Take this as a wakeup call if you’re having too much sex. You’re hurting yourself and your partner, and it’s time to seek out help.