Why Women LOVE Biting During Sex

 It's true that 50 Shades of Gray may have gotten a lot wrong about kinks and fetishes…

But it did open the door for many women to feel comfortable opening up about the “rough” sex they secretly crave.

I recently wrote about rope bondage, and how one study found that more and more women are open to trying it. But what about other kinks and fetishes — for example, sensual biting?

Yeah, you heard that right — biting.

Many women enjoy slightly rough sex on a pretty regular basis, and this includes the act of biting during foreplay or intercourse.

So if this sounds like something you'd be interested in exploring, read on to learn more.

What Exactly Is Sexual Biting?

Sexual biting, otherwise known as odaxelagnia, can be roughly defined as this:

The act of creating or enhancing sexual arousal through biting.

Because “odaxelagnia” is quite a mouthful to say (no pun intended), I'll keep things basic and just refer to sexual biting simply as “biting” moving forward.

This form of sexual biting can range from minimal biting to increase a woman's arousal… all the way to intense biting that draws blood.

“Bloodplay” is a separate topic for another time, so for the purpose of today's articles, I'll just focus on biting that you can use to increase a woman's sexual arousal.

Why Do Women Enjoy Biting During Sex?

It might sound counterintuitive, but biting can be extremely pleasurable when done correctly.

One recent Men’s Health article explains that biting can lead to a fast escalation in arousal, causing the woman you're with to get turned on a lot faster than she would otherwise.

Knowing that, it's no surprise, then, to hear that most women fantasize about incorporating biting into sex. But why exactly does biting turn her on so quickly?

The way it works is pretty simple — when you bite a woman during foreplay or sex, the shock to her body catches her mind off guard.

It takes a few seconds for her mind to figure out what's going on, and that can trigger a powerful release of sexual pleasure or excitement.

This can be further enhanced by biting in different areas, which can vary greatly depending on the woman. But more on that in a sec — first, let's talk about how to tell if the woman you're with is into sexual biting.

How to Tell if a Woman Is Into Sexual Biting

Sexual biting is a kink that's pretty easy to “test out” without scaring her away.

If you're not sure how to tell if a woman will be into sexual biting, here are a few ways you can figure it out:

1) Try biting her lip during an intense make-out session

Make sure you’re really going at it hot and heavy before trying this and see how she responds.

If she bites back, it’s a great sign that she’s really into it.

She may also moan or suck in her breath quickly — these are pretty good indicators that your biting is exciting her.

2) Try nibbling before biting

The next time you're going down on a woman or even when you're on top of her in bed, try nibbling or lighting biting her thigh and/or neck.

Some women are extremely sensitive to touch, so you'll be able to tell pretty easily if what you're doing is “too much.”

(For example, if she backs off or says “Hey, what are you doing?” Then she probably needs you to take things down a notch. Otherwise, forge ahead!)

3) Ask her during sex

Some women get shy when talking about what they like in bed, so the best way to find out is often to ask her during sex.

When you try nibbling on her neck, if she seems to enjoy it, ask her outright:

“Does that turn you on?”

It’ll be easier for her to answer when she’s caught in the moment and feeling sexual already.

The “Right” Way to Start Experimenting With Sexual Biting

If you suspect that the woman you're with might enjoy incorporating biting into sex, then you have a few options.

Whether you want to just jump into it or would rather introduce it slowly, here are a few ways that you can start having hotter sex with sexual biting as soon as tonight:

1) Concentrate on her erogenous zones

You may already know that there are a few spots that absolutely drive women wild.

These include her neck…

Nipples…

Clitoris…

And thighs…

And which spots drive women the wildest depends on the specific woman you're with. However, don't start biting her here right away.

Instead, nibble around those areas first, and wait until she begs you to start going harder.

2) Incorporate biting with foreplay

Fact: Women are not wired to just start “going at it,” so foreplay is very important.

Wait until she's a little aroused (you should be able to feel if she's wet or not), and then slowly incorporate biting into your routine.

For example, after kissing her or throwing her down on the bed, try touching her body all over as you nibble her neck.

Work your way down her body, but move slowly and only bite her here or there every couple minutes or so. Too much biting could end up hurting her.

Pro Tip: Using dirty talk during this stage can also get her very, very excited for the oncoming sex. 😉

3) Bite and release quickly

Most women enjoy biting when it's done quickly, rather than drawn out. The best way to test these waters is to bite and release a second or two later — just long enough to shock her body without actually hurting her.

Once the two of you become more comfortable with biting, you can try prolonging it or playing with the pressure of your teeth.

And remember — there's a world of sexual experimentation beyond biting as well! So even if the woman you're with isn't into biting… or she seems really “vanilla”…

There are some easy ways to ease her into this sort of hotter, rougher sex.

Here's how:

How To Unleash Her Inner Nympho if She’s Shy Or “Vanilla”…

Jeff was just an “OK” kisser.

My plan was to freshen up, make up some excuse about an “early meeting”… & never call him again.

Then he changed all that…

He looked into my eyes, took my hand & pulled me closer to him…

Then he kissed my neck, and pushed me onto the bed. Hard.

I couldn’t get up… and I didn’t want to, either. The way he touched me… how he was juuuust rough enough…. It was like he was a completely new man!

“OMG, Jeff… I think I came like 6 times haha!!! How’d you turn me on so quick?” I asked him afterward…

Plus 3 “Deep Penetration” Sex Positions That Fill Her Up

 

If you've ever worried that you're not “big enough” down there… don't worry.

I've had a lot of the same fears as you.

A lot of times, I tell people I'm “about average” down there…

But according to the Boston Medical Group, the average penis size of American men is 5.57 inches.

So if I'm being 100% honest… I'm actually below average in that department.

Yeah, for a while I was pretty embarrassed about it…

But then I thought, “Hey, being embarrassed about my d!ck size isn't going to make it grow…”

(Though eventually I did discover the next best thing from a pretty controversial and unlikely source).

So instead of being all down in the dumps about my size (or lack thereof)…

I decided to harden the hell up… and figure out the best ways to make sex feel as good for the girl as if I had some 11-inch monster dong.

And one thing consistently came up more than anything else…

The One “Spot” That Few Women Know About On Their Own Bodies (& How It Gives Them POWERFUL ROLLING Orgasms When You Hit It)

More than anything else… when a woman says she “likes big penises” or “prefers a bigger d!ck”… she's actually not being 100% truthful.

That's because what women want isn't just “having a big penis” inside of them…

They just want for a guy to be able to hit any “spot” inside of them.

The most famous of these spots is probably the “G spot”–the walnut-shaped patch of fleshy skin 2-3 inches up and inside of a woman's vagina.

But another 3 inches beyond that?

Is her “Deep Spot.”

It's also known as a woman's “Anterior Fornix” or “A-Spot”… and many women say it feels really good.

A woman who goes by “Katie” on Vice describes how she discovered her A-Spot:

“After many months of incorporating clitoral stimulation into intercourse and finding that it enabled my orgasms during PIV, I started to notice that things always felt especially good when my partner would thrust very deep. It clicked that this might be the anterior fornix I’d read about. After I figured that out, I started experimenting on my own with sex toys that could reach that spot, and doing a lot of reading about it.” [1]

The A-Spot is 3 inches or so beyond the G-Spot… fairly deep inside of a woman:

Do the math: if it's 3 inches to a woman's G-Spot…

And another 3 inches to her A-spot…

And most guys are 5.57 inches or less…

Then a woman is with a guy who can hit her A-Spot less than half the time.

Take out the guys who are above-average-endowed but don't know the secrets I'm about to show you…

And it's actually very rare that a woman encounters a guy who can reliably hit her A-Spot… and make her climax really hard… and give her multiple “rolling” orgasms…

So if you can do it reliably… then every time that girl is horny… she'll blow you up with texts since you can give her something she can't get anywhere else!

And the easiest way to hit her A-Spot reliably?

It's not to have a big penis.

Look at the diagram above–if a guy has a d!ck that's too big… it's not going to hit a girl's A-Spot reliably either. It'll slide on past… and she won't get the really intense orgasms she craves from that.

So there's actually a great opportunity here: for guys with below-average-sized penises… who can make the most out of what they've got… and use the three brand new sex positions you're about to learn to reliably hit her A-Spot every time you have sex…

3 “Deep Penetration” Sex Positions That Hit Her “A Spot” (Even If You Have a Small Penis)

All three of these positions are designed to hit a girl's A-Spot even if you aren't particularly well-endowed.

Essentially, they position the girl so that her A-Spot is moved forward, and is easier for you to reach.

So instead of six inches… you'll hit it at 3-5 inches.

And as long as you're hard enough during sex… this should result in a legs shaking… sheet-soaking… panting… moaning… incredible orgasm for her… (or even multiple orgasms in a row)… that she'll come running back to you for whenever she's horny.

Here are these positions:

1) Deck Chair

For this one, the girl you're with lays flat and raises her legs in the air.

Then you enter her from the bed, on your knees.

She then bends her legs at a 90 degree angle.

Raising her legs in the air brings her vagina forward, and makes her A-Spot more accessible.

Being on your knees also allows you to thrust as deeply as you need to to fully hit her A-Spot.

2) Piston

This one is more advanced, but if you can pull it off, you'll get deeper inside of her and hit her A-Spot easily.

Stand with your back to a couch, bed, or table.

Lift her up onto your penis, and have her support herself by putting her feet on the surface behind you.

Then you can vary how quickly she rides you by pulling her up-and-down–kinda like a piston.

This is great because not only do you hit her A-Spot… but also you'll stimulate her clit as well.

When you consistently hit both at the same time, she can end up having a “multigasm”–two different “types” of orgasms at the same time.

3) Cradle

This one is another more advanced position… but done properly, you can really go deep here… and guys with even the smallest penises can hit her A-Spot.

Start on a bed and either sit in a way that'll give you some movement… or (more preferably) kneel.

Then have her straddle you and enter her from the front.

She'll lean back on her arms for support.

Hold her by the sides and you can control how fast or slow she bounces on top of you. That way, you can control the speed and depth of penetration.

You can even “throw” her down on your penis if you're feeling more adventurous… or give her a light “spanking” in this position as well.

How to Go Even Deeper the Next Time You Have Sex (& Get LEGENDARY Hard-Ons)

I got this “Legendary Hard-On Trick” from a history book, of all places… and it really does work!

This “Legendary Hard-On Trick” doesn't depend on a specific position (obviously)… though if you use the 3 positions above, you will go deeper inside of her… and often hit her elusive “A-Spot”…

This “Legendary Hard-On Trick” Takes ALL the guesswork out of it.

That's because this Legendary Hard-On Trick promotes bloodflow throughout your entire body… which makes you as hard as a lead pipe… and helps you stay as hard as long as you need to during sex.

(Not to mention it gives you the sex drive of a wild mustang trying to mate with any young filly around).

So even if you're “below average” down there…

The “Legendary Hard-On Trick” makes the most out of what you've got… FILLS your penis with as much blood as it can possibly squeeze into it…

And the result is thicker, fuller-feeling, firmer erections for you… the likes of which the woman you're with probably has never felt inside of her.

Sex will be a lot better for you…

…it'll feel better for her…

…and best of all, whatever woman you're with will want to have sex a LOT more often.

(And again, as a guy who's below average-sized “down there,” this “Legendary Hard-On Trick” was definitely a godsend–my d!ck definitely felt bigger… and I was way more confident when I started doing it.)

It took some convincing… but the doctor who pointed me to this ancient secret agreed to have a video made for you and show you exactly what to do to get as thick and hard as a baseball bat.

And for a limited time… this presentation is available 100% free to you as a Gotham Club reader.

Are male multiple orgasms just a myth?

In the ongoing race between the sexes, we often assume that women get the short end of the stick, given how much more difficult - or at least, less well-served by penetrative sex - the female orgasm is to achieve. 

And yet, many women, with practice, able to achieve something most men only dream of: the multiple orgasm.

But, just because it isn’t widely experienced, does that mean that male multiple orgasms don’t exist? The answer may surprise you.

While not solely focused on sex, these philosophies have developed practices related to the extension of coitus and hence male erection by studying methods to achieve multi-orgasm.

Taoism and ejaculation control

According to the Tao, sperm is a vital energy depositor and for this reason should be kept as much in the body as possible. This belief has led the Taoists to develop a series of techniques to prevent ejaculation: from the simple coitus interruptus to exerting pressure to the perineum or even conscious contraction of the muscles of the perineum itself.

Tantra and the ‘Valley Orgasm’

Tantric disciplines proposes a different approach to sex than we’re used to: according to Tantric theory, in fact, orgasm simply IS NOT the purpose of sexual intercourse. 

Tantric sex is based on a protracted contact between the two partners, which does not necessarily imply sexual intercourse as we usually mean it.

 

Tantra promotes four ways to achieve this kind of sensation: attention, sound, breath, and movement. And if three of these are generally shared by western approaches to sex (attention to the partner, use of voice, movements in harmony with the other), when it comes to breathing, there is a diametrically opposite approach.

In the west we associate excitement, sexual desire, and orgasm with short and rushed breaths. The more excited we are, the shorter and shallower our breaths become. Tantra, on the other hand, promotes a deep breathing technique that really makes sense if you think about, since every time we breathe we oxygenate muscles and brain.

Orgasm and ejaculation

Returning to the distinction between men and women, the thing that distinguishes female orgasm from the male is that female orgasm does not (usually) involve ejaculation.

And yet therein lies the rub: most of us tend to consider orgasm and ejaculation as two faces of the same coin, but in fact it is not. There can be orgasm without ejaculation and ejaculation without orgasm. Ejaculation is not the cause of orgasm, but it is a reflection that follows after a few seconds.

The refractory period

While it can vary from lasting just a few moments or a few hours, the refractory period refers to the period after ejaculation in which one is physically unable to have an erection and hence an orgasm. The existence of a refractory period in men – and not women – is how we get the idea what women can have multiple orgasms and men cannot. However…

It can be done

The key to achieving male multiple orgasms is to find that crucial moment before orgasm becomes ejaculation, and stop. The pleasurable spasms of orgasm will be tested, but the lack of ejaculation will make the penis stay erect so you can resume sex. 

This sexpert thinks she's found the answer to closing the orgasm gap

Vrangalova has said that staying open-minded about anal sex could be part of the solution to bridge that orgasm gap. Picture: Max Pixel

WATCH: This sexpert thinks she's found the answer to closing the orgasm gap

Sexpert and NYU professor of human sexuality Zhana Vrangalova thinks she may have come up with a possible solution to the orgasm gap. 

According to a 2017 study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior, only 65% of heterosexual women experience orgasm "always" or "usually" during sex with an intimate partner.

The orgasm gap "is especially true for heterosexual and bisexual women. Lesbian women have higher rates of orgasm compared to women of other sexual orientations - although still somewhat lower rates than men of all sexual orientations,” said Vrangalova.

WATCH: 5 reasons why women climax less than men [WARNING: CONTENT OF A SENSITIVE NATURE]

According to her, research suggests that anal sex, partnered with the other acceptance-driven acts that come along with it, could pave the way for inclusive orgasms in the future.

While the latest data made for a compelling argument, Vrangalova added that more research had to be done to provide a more conclusive road map.

“There is certainly physical pleasure that comes with anal play that contributes to women’s likelihood of orgasming during those encounters, but I don’t think that this means that anal sex in and of itself is the holy grail of orgasms for women,” she told wellandgood.com. 

Instead, she argued that sexual experiences including anal likely tend to last longer, have greater variety, and are imbued with open, intimate communication.

“(Anal) is also an activity that anyone can engage in (regardless of gender or sexual orientation) because we all have butts with nerve endings that feel good when stimulated,” Vrangalova concluded.

Are you masturbating enough?

As the old joke goes, 95% of people masturbate, and 5% are lying.

How often does the average person really masturbate, though? According to a recent survey of more than 10 000 people in nine counties between the ages of 18 and 70, 95% of men and 81% of women admitted to having masturbated in their lifetime. 

Men take the lead with an average of 15 times per month while the average woman pleasures herself eight times per month. While woman are almost twice as likely to own an adult toy, 70% of sex toy owners claim that they enhance their sexual experiences.

Contrary to popular belief, you won’t go bald, blind or grow hair on your palms. In fact, many consider masturbation a form of self-care as it has been proven to be good for both your mental and physical health.

Here are just a few of the benefits of masturbation:

Overall happiness

Orgasms release Endorphins, Serotonin and Oxytocin. These are feel-good hormones that can relieve pain and make you feel happier regardless of gender or age, just like you would after a great workout.

Confidence booster

It teaches you about your body. Many sex therapists will recommend masturbation as a form of self-discovery as it’s easier to reach orgasm without the pressure of a partner. Learning about your body and being comfortable with your own sexual preferences also builds confidence and self-esteem.

It just feels good

It leads to better sex. You can’t expect your partner to satisfy you sexually if you don’t know exactly how to do it yourself. Figuring out what you like sexually is good; sharing it with your partner is even better. As they say, practice makes perfect.

Exercises your pelvic floor

It strengthens your pelvic floor. Just like Kegel Balls, the contractions you feel during orgasm will exercise your pelvic floor muscles which could help with urinary issues like incontinence and erectile dysfunction.

Better sleep

You’ll sleep better. An orgasm just before bedtime will leave you more relaxed and puts you in a natural meditative state. Those feel-good hormones released during orgasm will also help you fall asleep faster and generally lead to deeper sleep.

Brain food

It improves concentration. Think about the last orgasm you had; odds are you weren’t thinking about that work deadline. Reaching orgasm requires you to shift any stressful thoughts you might have aside and helps you to focus on the task at hand (pun intended).

Overall heart health

It’s good for your heart. Just like exercise, masturbation gets your blood pumping and increases your breathing rate, which can lead to a lower risk of weight gain and better cardiovascular health. We’re not saying skip the gym, but it won’t hurt to add it to your exercise routine.

So how often should you masturbate?

We’ve already established that most people masturbate and that they do so for different reasons. It helps you to broaden your sexual horizons, it enables you to relax, and it relieves sexual tension when your partner might not be around, but the honest truth is that most people do it because it feels really, really good. 

Whether you masturbate more than once a day, weekly, monthly or even once a decade, this is all perfectly normal and absolutely nothing to be ashamed about. In short, masturbation is natural, healthy, and it goes without saying that the safest sexual partner is yourself. After all, you know where you’ve been.