Doomed to fail. Nobody enters a marriage expecting the worst. They have hopes, naturally. They are a bright future and endless possibilities. The thing is, however, high hopes only go so far, and sometimes two people just aren't nearly as compatible as they may have believed they were. It sucks, but that's sometimes the case with the truth.
Signs of a sexless marriage. So, let's explore what is most likely going to lead you to a sexless marriage, according to The Huffington Post. You won't want to admit it when it comes, so it's best to know your facts before your dive in. If you're already married and never thought to look for these signs… apologies all around.
Your relationship is already sexless. You know what is probably the clearest telltale sign that most likely to couple is not going to be happy in a marriage? A lack of sex. Yes, it seems obvious enough, but if you think that sex will just miraculously become part of your life, then you are certainly living in denial.
A lack of physical touch. If you’re not physically affectionate with each other, then why do you think you’ll suddenly be physically affectionate after you tie the knot? This is risky behavior, as it’s pretty much a sign that your lack of affection is only going to worsen the longer you’re together.
Separate, but equal. If you’re both too busy to have sex, that’s not necessarily going to just fix itself. If your schedules just refuse to allow you free time together, then you’re most likely just going to get accustomed to not being together, and it’s not going to benefit your sex life in the slightest.
Pain. Sex isn’t supposed to hurt. If it does, then there’s an obvious problem. This doesn't necessarily mean that your partner is doing anything wrong, it just means that the positions you’re in maybe don’t jive as well with you as you’d like. However, if you don’t fix this problem, then it’s just going to keep scaring you away from a healthy sex life.
Emotional love affairs. If you’re constantly thinking about someone else, then guess what — those feelings aren’t just going to end. You may not feel satisfied in your relationship, and if you continue to have romantic thoughts about other people, then it’s not doing your sex life any favors. It’s also not doing your relationship, in general, any favors either.
Waiting and waiting and waiting. If you want sex to happen, you can’t just wait for it. You need to be the initiator. You need to understand that it needs to be mutual if you want to engage in sex. If you keep waiting, then you can’t just expect it to happen out of the blue. Take the initiative!
Lost connection. Some people get married even when they’re not completely emotionally connected. They just feel so used to each other, that they don’t bother breaking things off. So, if this sounds familiar, then you need to address the situation. Your future isn’t hopeless. You just need to work through your sh*t.
Bored and boring. If you’re bored, then maybe it’s because you’re boring. To keep things exciting in the bedroom, you need to be willing to spice things up. Find what you enjoy, and then project that into your love life. If your partner still doesn’t react, then maybe your problems run much deeper.
Mutual exhaustion. Listen, we get it — life can be busy. Due to this, exhaustion takes a serious toll. Sadly, even though you’re trying to do your best in life, if you’re too tired for sex now, then chances are you are definitely going to be too tired for sex later on in life, when you’re even busier than you are right now.
Reaching the end. When you’re having sex with your partner, you shouldn’t be rushing through it. It shouldn’t be about reaching an orgasm, it should be about enjoying each other’s body and company. So, if this isn’t the case now, then nip it in the bud. Otherwise, your marriage is hardly going to be as satisfying as you want it to be.
Whatever. Listen, we get it, you’re comfortable around your partner. This is important. However, if you’re not even concerned about trying to look appealing anymore, even when it comes to your more intimate moments. It’s OK to be relaxed, but don’t get so complacent that you just don’t give a f*ck anymore.
Argumentative. Arguing is OK when you’re in a relationship. In fact, seeing as it’s inevitable, as long as you can get through a fight without wanting to scream at your S.O., then you’re good. But if you argue so much that you can’t even find it in yourself to work through your crap for some much needed sex, then don’t expect that problem to just solve itself just because you said, “I do.”
Emotionally distant. Sex is not just about being physical with your partner. It’s about bonding on a spiritual and emotional level. So, if you’re emotionally distant now, what makes you think that’s going to change when you’re married? You need to get a hold of your relationship. Otherwise, you’re just going to be sleeping in a bed with someone without actually sleeping with them.
No comments:
Post a Comment