15 Sexual Things Women Are Ashamed Of — But Shouldn’t Be

There is enough wrong with the rest of the world that women shouldn't feel the need to be ashamed of anything. That's not to say that they aren't put into positions that thrust shame upon them, but it just shouldn't be the case. For too long, they've been putting up with way too much in the form of sexism that a free pass to feel comfortable in their own skin should be a given. It should be a right. Years and years of pressure, stereotyping and bigotry have left them with emotional baggage, but it's time they put the classless past back away where it belongs. Women have put too much into the world to ever feel the brunt of shame. Keep reading to find the 15 sexual things women are ashamed of — but shouldn't be.

Not orgasming quickly enough. If sex was all about the finish, then couples may as well just masturbate in front of each other. Sex is about the passion, so diluting that with the anxiety of not climaxing when you think you ought to is just ruining the flow. No one’s going to be upset that sex isn’t over quickly enough.

How their body smells. As long as you’re keeping up healthy hygienic practices, you’re good to go. Whatever smell you’re insecure about, your partner is probably just as insecure about something similar on his or her own body. Just own your body and you’ll be surprised how easily you forget to pay attention to the tiny details.

Having fantasies that are too “dirty.” Everyone has their kink, so don’t think for a second that your kink is weirder than your neighbor’s. The only reason you’re afraid it feels strange is because people don’t typically open up about their fetishes and fantasies. Just indulge in the butterflies-in-your-stomach feeling it gives you.

Asking for something. If you want something in the bedroom, don’t be shy. Don’t assume that what you want is “weird,” because chances are your partner is going to want something that they probably think is weird. Just embrace what you want. Holding back is only going to frustrate the hell out of you.

Wanting to use protection. You’re not a kid anymore. The things that you object to aren’t considered prudish or lame. They’re personal choices that you stand by for person reasons. Wanting to use protection and standing your ground, even though your partner is maybe trying to encourage you otherwise, is noble. Don’t be ashamed.

Their weight. When you’re in the moment (or anticipating the moment) being afraid that your body isn’t up to par is natural, but isn’t necessary. So many people — men and women alike — get hung up on their weight, when they really need to focus their attention elsewhere. They need to focus it on confidence. You can rock whatever body you have, but without the confidence, it’ll only feed the insecurity.

Masturbating. Some people grow up in areas that condemn sexual pleasure. Maybe it’s for religious reasons, maybe it’s not, but whatever the case may be, negative feelings about masturbating should be a sin in itself. Go buy a vibrator. Go use that vibrator. Don’t let anyone tell you what you’re doing is wrong.

Not being in the mood. You’re not a sex machine (even if you sometimes proudly feel like that when you’re in the moment). So if you’re not in the mood for sex, it doesn’t mean you’re broken, and there’s nothing to be ashamed of. If someone gives you sh*t over this, just move on.

Not wanting to perform a certain act. Your body, your rules. It’s really that simple. Now, some people like to believe that just because sex has been agreed upon that they can force their sexual partner into doing anything that they want, but that’s extremely far from the truth. Don’t feel bad for objecting to something — make them feel ashamed for being so pushy.

Wanting a lot of sex. If you have sexual organs, you’re allowed to use them. You’re allowed to do whatever you want with them. So if you want a lot of sex, don’t let people tear you apart by calling you a slut. Own what you love. There’s literally nothing wrong with acting out on your sexual urges, as long as you’re careful.

How many people you’ve slept with. Everyone lives their lives the way they want to live them. Some people sleep with one person for the rest of their lives and some people share the wealth. If you want to experience a number of people’s bodies, then do it. Don’t let anyone shame you away from enjoying your life the way you want to enjoy it.

Not shaving enough. It’s your body, which means you get to decide how it looks. If you want to have some hair down there, then have it. There aren’t any rules to how your body ought to be groomed, so whether you like a full bush or a sleek surface, it’s nothing to be ashamed of.

The noises you make when you orgasm. When people orgasm, the sounds they make and the way their bodies move are totally unique. Some people are loud and some people are quiet, some people writhe around uncontrollably and some people just lay there. So don’t feel like a freak because of a natural, physical reaction you’re having to an orgasm. Just enjoy it.

Passing gas in the bedroom. Dear Lord, don’t freak out if you fart. It happens. You’re twisting your body around in all of these positions and stretching your legs apart. Gas won’t have a choice but to move around in your body and want an escape. Just own it and laugh and move on.

You. Were you ashamed of any of these things? If so, we hope you aren't any more! Let us know in the comments section below.