Women’s Top Complaints About Men’s Foreplay Techniques

Foreplay is important. Like, . But not every man gets it right. Seemingly, ladies have a ton of complaints when it comes to guy's foreplay techniques, or lack thereof. From dashing through the motions and uncomfortable dirty talk, to ignoring the clitoris, ladies have an array of issues they regularly deal with when it comes to what goes down in the bedroom. Out of curiosity, we asked 15 women what their top complaints were on the matter — here's what they had to say.

Spanking. Marie, 26, told us: “Spanking is either hit or miss with me. In fact, I once was with a guy who thought I’d like being spanked every 20 seconds or so. Literally. At one point, I had to actually incept his hand to make him stop. I felt like I was being treated like a little kid — and that was not okay. So if you’re going to spank, make sure it’s appropriately timed.”

Tongue. “Please, for the love of god, stop putting your tongue inside my ears, boys,” Aly, 29, dished. “It’s not only gross, but kind of unsanitary as well. Has no one ever heard of ear infections? Pro tip: Unless you ask your partner if she’s into it, just don’t do it. Trust me.”

Fingering. Laura, 23, said: “I can’t stand it when a guy fingers you and mimics the in-out motion of an actual penis. That gets no girl going. Like, at all. In fact, it kind of hurts. Actually, no, it really hurts. Fingers aren’t shaped like a penis, and they definitely don’t feel like one. So stop stabbing our cervix, please.”

Nails. “Uncut nails being jammed into my vagina has got to be my number one peeve,” Patty, 31, said. “It’s brutal, to say the least. Not to mention, it can result in vaginal tears all up in there — and who wants that? Fellas, listen here: Cut. Your. Nails. Unless you never want to get laid again, that is.

Chewing. Francesca, 26, wrote: “I really can’t stand it when a guy chews — yes, chews — on my nipples. I think they think they’re nibbling on them, but no — it straight-up feels like a little animal is trying to devour my areolas whole. Nipples are meant to be nibbled on, not ingested. Ugh.”

Pinching. Isabel, 22, said: “You know when a guy reaches up and pinches your nipples without even asking? Yeah, I hate that. It’s like they pinch them as if they’re trying to keep air out of a hose. It’s not that I don’t like having my girls played with — I just typically don’t want them handled that hard and that abruptly. Why would anyone think that’d turn a girl on?"

Clitoris. “As a fellow clitoris-haver, I fully endorse that men play with the C-spot — gently though,” Olivia 28, wrote in to us. “Way too many men start off rubbing hard, but it just hurts when a guy does that with a dry finger. So go slow, start gentle, and really listen to her moans. Pay attention to her body language and follow her cues. And remember: Start off sloooow.”

Speed. Leyla, 30, said: “Beyond skipping it altogether, rushing through foreplay is by far the worst thing a guy can do. Do men really think a girl can get off from two minutes of flicking and nibbling? Not even rubbing! Seriously, most men need a crash course on the art of foreplay."

Communication. "It really pisses me off when a dude can't communicate in the bedroom," Natalie, 24, told us. "If you're unsure if I like something, ask me. If you're unsure if I don't like something, ask me. Just ask! It's really not that hard, nor awkward. In fact, it's more awkward to have me hate everything you do. No, thanks."

Dirty talk. "There's a fine line between sexy dirty talk and awkward dirty talk," Kristin, 26, explained to us. "Asking me if I like something or telling me you love my p*ssy? YES. But telling me you want to squirt your juices in my eyeballs? Hard pass.”

Inconsistency. Ellena, 33, shared: “I really, really don’t like it when a guy switches things up too often as if we’re in an adult film or something. Newsflash: We are not in an adult film. Sure, I like to switch things up every now and then — but I need at least a few minutes in one set-up to get things going for me. Actually, most women do.”

Oral. “When eating a girl out, don’t move your head side to side,” Rachel, 25, told us. “It reminds us of a dog chewing a toy or something. Not only is it really not sexy, it also doesn’t feel good either. Pro tip: Gently lick, then flick. Oh, and focus on the clitoris.”

Spit. “Personally, I hate it when a guy spits on my vagina,” Izzy, 27, revealed. “I’m not a man — I self-lubricate. In other words, I don’t really need your help to get my juices flowing. Well, that’s as long as you’re doing everything right down there. And if you’re not, you best believe I’m going to let you know.”

Pushing. Nicole, 34, said: “I honestly don’t know if men think that it turns us on me (maybe it does to some women, who knows) or if it’s just for themselves, but if you push my head down while I’m already down there doing my thing, there is a 50 percent chance I’m going to bite your penis off. Seriously, I know the limits of my gag reflex way better than you do. Back off.”

Oral pt. 2. Anais, 29, wrote: “Some guys really have no idea what they’re doing when giving oral. It becomes so apparent that they watch a lot of adult films when they think five minutes is enough to make me orgasm. Simply put, it’s not. I need at least 10-15 minutes of action down there. And when a guy seems irritated that I do? I tell ‘em, boy, bye."