Dance. Mirroring is the name of NLP technique that says people are subconsciously attracted to those that mirror their mannerisms. It may seem crazy but if the person you’re trying to impress has their arms crossed when you’re talking to them, you should do the same. If they’re speaking in a low voice, you should do the same. One of the best ways to do this without being obvious - dance. Dancing requires the mirroring of movements. Dancing builds a bond that is electric.
Breathe. This trick follows the mirroring principle in a way that is so effective that it’s almost too powerful, so be careful. If you’re sitting down with the person you’re attracted to, and you’re close enough to them that you can feel their breathing pattern, mirror it. Time your breathing with their breathing. They’ll never notice because people simply don’t think about their breathing. The effect is almost like hypnotism and you’ll notice an inexplicable and sudden attraction soon after.
Soul gazing. Scientific American wrote an article that refers to soul gazing as a “trick for staying in love.” Soul gazing is often associated with Tantra, but it’s a meditative way of looking into your partner’s eyes.
Occam’s Razor. Occam’s Razor is a problem solving principle that’s attributed to William of Occam. Basically, it means that the simplest answer is usually the correct one. You can apply this to love by not going overboard with any assumptions or fears.
Casimir Effect. This is a pretty complex principle but the most simple way to describe it is by saying that two objects in close proximity develop an attraction in time. For anyone who’s ever had a big crush on somebody who just didn’t seem to be interested, this principle shows that it’s worth it to put in the effort. The more time you spend around a person, the more attractive they become. You start to see the things you like about them, the things you didn’t see at first. Hang in there.
Watch hormones. Hormone horoscopes have become extremely popular over the past few years after one writer discovered that keeping a journal of hormones could help her predict how she would feel throughout the week. For women, hormone journals can help to predict what type of person you’ll be attracted to at any given moment during a one week span. For instance, before ovulation, women tend to be more attracted to masculinity. Men can also make use of a hormone journal, only a man’s hormonal cycle works on a day-to-day basis.
Newton. An object in motion tends to stay in motion. An object at rest tends to stay at rest. This is one of Newton’s laws of motion and it applies to many things, including relationships. Failure to pay attention to this law is one of the most common nails in the coffin of long-term relationships. As humans, we have a strange, recurring desire for laziness, and when we find a partner and become comfortable with them, we often revert to laziness. But that also tends to kill our relationships. Sometimes, a comfortable partner gives us permission to stop growing as people. When that happens, our relationships grind to halt as well.
Sleep together. Dr. Wendy Troxel at The University of Pittsburgh published a study about the importance of synchronized sleep schedules for couples. All in all she found that couples with synchronized sleep schedules fought less, had less anxiety and better health.
Make them orgasm. Oxytocin is a hormone that’s released in the brains of pregnant women that helps form the deep bond they have with their babies. What else generates this chemical? Orgasms. Obviously, orgasms feel good and a person is likely to be attracted to someone who gives them that feeling but there are deeper scientific factors at play.
Reduce your stress. Stress is potentially the absolute worst thing for any relationship, or sex life. A University of Texas at Austin study showed that cortisol, the stress hormone, is responsible for decreasing arousal and satisfaction. Our partners are more attracted to us when we have an absence of this chemical. One good method of stress release is sex.
Cuddle. For women, cuddling after sex increases sexual satisfaction. For both partners it boosts the immune system and causes the release of oxytocin, which strengthens your bond with your partner. Cuddling also causes a reduction of cortisol.
Listen to music together. A recent study published in the Frontiers Psychology journal showed that listening to music can reinforce good moods and enhance confidence. Stimulating these brain circuits along with a partner forms a strong bond that is good for relationships, so grab those ear buds and share them if for no other reason than that it’s adorable.
Trust. Sure it sounds obvious, but for many, it’s not something that’s put into practice. It’s so important that taking out the time to think about it and to second-guess your instincts to distrust will improve your relationship. Dr. Jeffrey Simpson says a relationship where trust is shared means a stronger attachment and positive emotions. Distrust is easily compounded with other negative emotions that will cause breakups over time.
The Heisenberg Principle. This is another complicated principe that you can break down to one simple sentence: You’re not always right. Basically, you always need to account for uncertainty. This is true in relationships as well. You need to always be trying to put yourself in the shoes of your partner and understand what their motivations are for things you don’t understand.
Put down your phone. New studies show that our phones cause depression and rewire the reward centers in our brains. They also incetivize us not pay attention to our partners. This is especially bad in bed. Looking at your phone in bed is an intimacy killer and is bad for your sleep cycles.
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